When other people come to us and say that they have a problem, for most of us, the first instinct is to think about how to solve their problem instead of letting them solve it on their own. The desire to fix other's problems and offer answers instead of listening attentively to the other person is called the righting reflex.
People who open up want to feel empathy from the other person and to also not be judged for their situation. This makes them less anxious and defensive.
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The ability to let others talk and not interrupt them is a skill that you must practice on a daily basis. This allows us to see more of the other person rather than ourselves.
Back in the 1990s, a woman naming Betty Bigombe was able to befriend a warlord by providing an opportunity for them to share their views. Betty Bigombe became Uganda's Woman of the Year for having initiated the peace talks to put an end to the violence between Kony and the Ugandan president and its people.
"Many communicators try to make themselves look smart. Great listeners are more interested in making their audiences feel smart."
"Even the devil appreciates being listened to."
Most of us have encountered people around us, friends, family or colleagues, who aren't the best of listeners.
As the world gets more and more connected and complicated, listening is turning out to be a neglected aspect of communications. Whether it's the news on TV, where authentic talk hardly exists, or how a conversation is portrayed in movies, people don't see other people listening to something quietly and actively.
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