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Reframe Your Self-Talk

Self-talk is often extremely negative, keeping us in doubt.

Learn to identify these negative internal voices and replace them with a more productive and positive narrative. Instead of telling yourself that you can't, tell yourself that you like to step up to a discussion. Over time, you will gain more confidence.

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When Weakness Turns To Self-Doubt

No matter what job you have, your success depends on understanding your shortcomings as well as your strengths.

Without an awareness of where you've got room for growth, it's very difficult to improve your performance. But, too much focus on your weaknesses can make you doubt yourself and make you unable to take the risks needed to move forward. There are strategies you can use to overcome self-doubt.

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Being too focused on our own limitations can prevent us from moving past them. When this happens, it's helpful to gain some distance from ourselves by channelling the alter ego.

Taking on a persona of someone more confident can help you gain perspective and let you see your challenges without letting them overwhelm you.

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To help you overcome excessive self-consciousness, intentionally think about yourself from someone else's perspective.

Another person may think you've got nothing to fear, that you're great. Seeing it from that point of view can clear your mind of self-doubt and help you perform at your best.

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While constructive feedback can be very valuable, we need to learn to ignore destructive feedback. When you are in a leadership position, everyone will have an opinion on how you could work better. However, not everyone's opinion is useful.

Instead of considering irrelevant feedback, label these comments as opinions and noise. Instead of reacting, hear the feedback, acknowledge it politely, and sift between the useful and the noise.

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Impostor syndrome

Think of your greatest achievements. Do you feel proud of what you've accomplished? Or do you feel like a fraud?

Does each raise, promotion or accolade bring joy? Or is it accompanied by the dread that, one day, your cover will be blown, and everyone will find out that you just got lucky?

If you experience feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt, don't sweat. Impostor Syndrome is typically associated with high achievers. So, if you feel like a fraud, the chances are that you're more capable than you think. Real frauds don't worry about things like this.

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A Secret Weapon for Blooming

The good news is that self-doubt, odd as it may sound, is actually a secret weapon for blooming. When properly managed, it can help combat complacency and improve our preparation and performance. It drives us to question results, experiment with new strategies, and be open to alternate ways to solve problems — tactics that correlate with late bloomer strengths such as curiosity and resilience. But self-doubt isn’t only a performance enhancer; it’s also a recipe for being a wiser leader, teacher, parent and friend, because coming to terms with it makes us more compassionate and gives us greater insight into ourselves and others. The problem is that many people deal with self-doubt by sabotaging our chances of success.

To bloom, we must learn not to fear self-doubt but to embrace it as a naturally occurring opportunity for growth and improvement. The key to harnessing self-doubt starts at the very core of our individual beliefs about ourselves, with what psychologists call “self-efficacy.” And understanding self-efficacy begins with Albert Bandura.

We can improve self-efficacy through something we already do: Talk. We all talk ourselves through situations, good and bad. It’s our inner cheerleader — or our inner critic. Psychologists and researchers call this voice “self-talk.” Self-talk shapes our relationships with ourselves, allowing us to try to see things more objectively. Objectivity can be enormously beneficial for late bloomers, helping us overcome the negative cultural messages we receive from family, friends and society.

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Subscribing to a company's culture

Buying in can mean workers consider the organization part of themselves. In many cases, employees not only get on board with a company’s stated mission, but also the culture, and feel like they share values with the organization.

But while many workers buy in to the companies they work for when they’re first hired, some people find their enthusiasm fades. Several factors can lead to a loss of buy-in, like when workers believe companies fail to live up to their values or feel there’s an uneven exchange between employee and employer

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