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Strengthen your self-esteem.

And criticism and negative words will bounce off of you more easily and often.

Plus, you’ll be less concerned about getting everyone else to like you all the time.

...because now you like and respect yourself more and your dependency upon what others may think or say drops drastically.

Reminder: People don’t really care that much about what you say or do.

...because here’s the thing: people have their hands full with thinking and worrying about their own lives.

This realization can make you feel less important. But it can also set you free.

Set Boundaries for yourself

If you say no to yourself, if you set a few firm boundaries for yourself then it will over time become easier to do the same towards other people too.

And these boundaries can also help you to focus better on what matters the most to you.

A couple of my daily ones that have helped me with both of those things are:

  • A start-time and a stop-time for work.
  • Work in a no-distraction zone.
  • Only check email once a day.

Keep your focus on what YOU want out of your life.

If you know what’s most important to you and you keep your focus on that each day then you’ll naturally start to say no and stop being so people pleasing.

...because now your energy and time is mostly focused on your needs and wants.

Paulo Coelho

“When you say “yes” to others, make sure you aren’t saying “no” to yourself.”

PAULO COELHO

Learn how to handle criticism and verbal lash outs (and the fear of that).

...because sometimes it’s simply about the other person and his or her situation in life right now and not about what you did or did not do.

  • Wait before you reply.
  • Remember: you can let it go.
  • It's Ok to Disagree.

Learn how to say 'No'.

When you like to please then it’s of course hard to say no.

But it is vital for you own happiness, stress-levels and for living the life you truly want.

Remind yourself why it is important to sometimes say no: You teach people by how you behave.

It’s OK to feel a bit guilty about saying no (but you don’t have to act on it).

Realize that with some people it isn’t about you and what you do (no matter what you do).

Some people just can’t be pleased. No matter what you do.

Because it’s not about what you do or do not do. It’s about him or her.

By realizing this and how you in the end can’t get everyone to like you or avoid conflict no matter what you do you can start to let go of this ineffective and damaging habit.

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