Strengthen your self-esteem.

And criticism and negative words will bounce off of you more easily and often.

Plus, you’ll be less concerned about getting everyone else to like you all the time.

...because now you like and respect yourself more and your dependency upon what others may think or say drops drastically.

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Some people just can’t be pleased. No matter what you do.

Because it’s not about what you do or do not do. It’s about him or her.

By realizing this and how you in the end can’t get everyone to like you or avoid conflict no matter what you do you can start to let go of this ineffective and damaging habit.

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When you like to please then it’s of course hard to say no.

But it is vital for you own happiness, stress-levels and for living the life you truly want.

Remind yourself why it is important to sometimes say no: You teach people by how you behave.

It’s OK to feel a bit guilty about saying no (but you don’t have to act on it).

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Paulo Coelho

“When you say “yes” to others, make sure you aren’t saying “no” to yourself.”

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...because sometimes it’s simply about the other person and his or her situation in life right now and not about what you did or did not do.

  • Wait before you reply.
  • Remember: you can let it go.
  • It's Ok to Disagree.

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...because here’s the thing: people have their hands full with thinking and worrying about their own lives.

This realization can make you feel less important. But it can also set you free.

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If you say no to yourself, if you set a few firm boundaries for yourself then it will over time become easier to do the same towards other people too.

And these boundaries can also help you to focus better on what matters the most to you.

A couple of my daily ones that have helped me with both of those things are:

  • A start-time and a stop-time for work.
  • Work in a no-distraction zone.
  • Only check email once a day.

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If you know what’s most important to you and you keep your focus on that each day then you’ll naturally start to say no and stop being so people pleasing.

...because now your energy and time is mostly focused on your needs and wants.

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  • Its very important to give yourself permission to fail - remember, guilt is not a productive emotion.
  • Honoring your word — when you commit to doing something, follow through. When you decide to do it, just do it.
  • Start planning your actions and breaking them into manageable chunks which increase your productivity.
  • Get others to keep you accountable — a friend or accountability partner that will call you out if you start backsliding.

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Being a people-pleaser

If you ever say "yes", when you want to say "no", or nod in agreement when you don't agree, you've probably experienced people pleasing.

People-pleasing is linked to a person's self-worth. A people pleaser hopes that saying yes will help him/her feel liked, but this could lead to feeling burned out, or cause unhappiness and lack of fulfillment.

The good news is that behavior can be changed. It is not easy, but making small changes will bring the desired result.

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When you’re in what seems like a negative situation, find what’s good.

...to counteract that ask yourself better questions.

Questions that will help you to feel better but also to learn so you can grow.

Questions like:

  • What’s one good thing about this situation?
  • What’s one thing I can do differently the next time to likely have a better outcome?
  • What’s one thing I can learn from this?
  • How would my best friend support and help me in this situation?

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