Rejection hurts

Rejection hurts

And we tend to interpret the pain incorrectly - we connect rejection to our self-worth, which makes us feel worse.

Rejection can benefit you. It can build resilience and help you grow and use the lessons you learn to future setbacks.

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Friendship breakups can hurt more than romantic ones. It is necessary to realise that friends come and go. You can use it as an opportunity to ask yourself if this is the type of person you want to be friends with.

After some time has passed and you find yourself missing that friendship, reach out to see if the person wants to get together. Allowing some time to pass can help people approach a friendship with a new perspective.

Sometimes we think we're being rejected when that is not true. Not getting a lot of likes on a post or seeing your friends having fun without you can make you feel inadequate.

But you can use social media in a positive way.

  • Use social media for conversations. Send direct messages to friends or comment on friends' posts.
  • Follow people and connect to people in real life that make you feel like you belong.
  • Most importantly, remind yourself of all the positive people in your life that you are grateful for.

Family members rejecting each other can be particularly painful. If a family member has rejected you, turn to online forums to connect or reach out to friends to find support from others in a similar situation. See how others effectively handled the situation.

We often assume there's nothing we can do about it, but when you educate yourself, you begin to understand why you feel the way you do.

People often look to external forces to feel validated instead of internal ones. When rejection comes to your dream opportunity, try to remember that your career path is not a straight line. Not every experience will move you forward.

Rejection does not end your goal. Think of rejection as growth. It could guide you to a new path that will eventually lead you to better places, even if it sometimes takes a bit longer to get there.

It's very easy to idealize the other person and the relationship while experiencing rejection. Sometimes, a breakup can make you feel inadequate and unworthy.

List all the traits you didn't appreciate about your partner to help you become aware of how you were incompatible and pinpoint the characteristics you want in the next relationship. When looking for other potential partners, try to ask questions about the values that are vital to you.

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Don't become sensitive to rejection
Many times the rejection does 50 percent of the damage and we do the other 50 percent of the damage. 

We start with this high volume of negative self-talk and criticism that takes the rejection to another level.

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Acknowledge Your Emotions

Mentally strong people admit when they're embarrassed, sad, disappointed, or discouraged. They have confidence in their ability to deal with uncomfortable emotions head-on, which is essential to coping with their discomfort in a healthy manner.

Acknowledging Emotions

Trying to minimize the pain by convincing yourself—or someone else—it was “no big deal” will only prolong your pain. The best way to deal with uncomfortable emotions is to face them head-on.

Admit when you're embarrassed, sad, disappointed, or discouraged. Be confident in your ability to cope with discomfort in a healthy manner.

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