The Longest-Running Study On Happiness
- The Harvard Study of Adult Development has followed 724 men (from various economic and social backgrounds) since they were teenagers in 1938.
- The clearest message from this 75-year study is this: Good relationships keep us happier and healthier.
- The people who fared the best were the people who leaned in to relationships, with family, with friends, with community.
- Over the years, the researchers asked members questions about their lives and their mental and emotional wellness.
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- Social connections are good for us, and loneliness is toxic. The people that are more socially connected to family, to friends, to the community, are happier, they're physically healthier, and they live longer than people who are less well connected.
- It's not just the number of friends you have, and it's not whether or not you're in a committed relationship, but it's the quality of your close relationships that matters.
- Good relationships don't just protect our bodies, they protect our brains. The people who are in relationships where they feel they can count on the other person in times of need, those people’s memories stay sharper and longer.
"There isn't time, so brief is life, for bickerings, apologies, heartburnings, callings to account. There is only time for loving, and but an instant, so to speak, for that.”
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- "Not yet" instead of "I failed" puts you on a learning curve and a path into the future.
- It breaks the obsession with 'now'..."I am a failure". But with a 'not yet', you get..." I don't know how to do the well yet".
- The idea that abilities can be developed solidifies in our mind and takes away the need for constant validation.
Passion keeps changing. What your passion was 10 years ago has no relation with what your assion is right now. (You can watch the video for more explanation.)
Do what is valuable. What you can give to the world. A job that helps you contribute something to the world.
When you do what's valuable, you give to the world. When you give to the world, you get support. When you get support, you never fall. When you never fall, you succeed. When you succeed, you love what you are doing.
All Negativity is not bad as research shows people:
- Pay more attention
- Learn from
- Make decisions
From negative events and experiences than positives ones.
For good reason, if something harmed us in the past, we are unlikely to repeat the experience as we would want to avoid the pain.
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