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Fearful-Avoidant Attachment
These people have a high level of anxiety and insecurity in their relationship, as well as a high level of avoidance in a relationship.
- Fluctuating view of themselves and others
- Want emotionally close relationships, but at the same time can be uncomfortable getting too close and struggle to truly trust others
- Fear of getting hurt, rejected, abandoned, if get too close
- Often suppress, hide, and deny their feelings and desires
- Show discomfort in expressing affection and their desires for intimacy
- Can often feel confused and can often give off mixed messages
- More likely to express desires and wishes in ineffective and unclear ways
- Can have difficulties with emotion regulation, anger, worry, sadness, and anxiety
(Note, their high level of avoidance is often due to a fear of getting hurt, rather than a lack of desire for relationships.)
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Where do I go from here?
The first step in self-development is building an awareness and understanding of yourself and others.
Use this information with kindness. Show yourself and others more compassion and recognise that attachment behaviours come from early experiences that continue to have stro...
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Secure Attachment
These people are high in their desire for emotional and physical closeness, and are low on their insecurity and anxiety about their relationship.
- Have a positive view of themselves and others
- Show comfort in being emotionally and physically close
- Value...
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Differences in Attachment
Do you ever find yourself wanting to spend more and more time together, while the other seems to be pulling away?
Similar problems to the one outlined above are often caused by differences in where each person lies on two scales:
1) Avoidance - of intimacy, relationships, and ...
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The Four Attachment Styles
- Secure attachment
- Anxious-preoccupied attachment
- Dismissive-avoidant attachment
- Fearful-avoidant attachment
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Anxious-Preoccupied Attachment
These people are high in their desire for emotional and physical closeness, but also high in their insecurity and anxiety about their relationship.
- Negative view of themselves and positive view of others
- Have a strong pull towards emotional and physical closen...
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Dismissive-Avoidant Attachment
These people show a strong preference towards independence and low levels of anxiety and insecurity about the security and stability of relationships.
- Positive view of themselves and negative view of others
- Report a comfort or desire to be without close emotional relat...
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Dismissive Or Avoidant Attachment Style
- Many people find it uncomfortable to trust the other person or to get too emotionally close.
- They are self-sufficient and do not need emotional intimacy.
- They quickly pull away and ‘go in a cave’ when rejected or hurt.
- Having neg...
Befriending an INFJ
INFJs are reserved and private, and can be difficult to get to know. They place a high value on close, deep relationships and can be hurt easily, although they often hide these feelings from others.
Interacting with an INFJ involves understanding and supporting their ne...
Make time for each other
If you neglect your relationship, your relationship will neglect you too.
In relationships, distance is not measured in miles, but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other and yet miles apart. So don’t ignore the one you love, because lack of concern often hurts more tha...
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