When comparison might be helpfull

The reality that some defree of comparisons iss inevitable. people are simply wired to notice what other people are experiencing adn then consider how it compares to their own sitation. And in some cases, it can actually have a positive effect, including:

• Comparisons may help you feel gratitude for your own life.
• It may help you consider options and think about what you want.
• It can lead to observational learning where you gain knowledge without actually having to go through that experience yourself.
• It can help you see what you need to do in order to achieve what you want in life.
• It may help you feel more compassion for others, which can help compel you to volunteer to help.

minimizing your pain is not a part of gratitude. you can be grateful for the good things in your life and still feel dissapointed, sad, or upset