Talking To A Contrarian
The first rule of conversing with a contrarian is learning why they are the way they are.
For most of us, being countered in an opposing way leads to us getting our hackles up or even shutting down. But often, the contrarian person might just want to harmlessly engage in conversation or better understand you.
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