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Failure to Actually Ask
Failure to clearly and explicitly ask for what you need is a common reason why people don’t help.
In many research and practice, most people are willing to help, but they don’t know what you need and can’t help until you tell them. An effective ask follows SMART criteria:
- Specific
- Meaningful (the “why” of the request)
- Action-oriented (asking for something to be done)
- Realistic and
- Time-bound (a specific deadline).
Remember, too, that an ask is a request, not a demand.
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Failure to Follow Through or Follow Up
Those who offer help never know what happened. Following up closes the loop.
It lets your helpers know the impact they’ve made. Doing so generates positive emotions and increases the chances your helpers will help you again.
When we clearly ask for what we need, graciously accept off...
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Failure to Accept Offers Graciously
Most people who ask for help are happy to get offers of help. Sometimes, ungracious responses to offers of help, such as “I already know that!” “I tried that, and it doesn’t work.”
An offer of help is a very human gesture. It implies an
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Failure to Express Sincere Gratitude
Thanking a person who helps you motivates additional prosocial behavior.
Research shows that the expression of gratitude motivates the helper to help you again, as well as to pay it forward and help third parties.
This chain of...
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