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One on ones: listen vs coach

When somebody comes to me with a problem, I let them first say like, here's what they're going to talk about. And I'll ask explicitly "Do you want my opinion on X? or is this just a vent session?".

When they're in venting mode, is this something that I need to just sit there and listen, or is it something where they want to brainstorm a solution?

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