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What To Do When Ghosted

  1. Consider Your Approach: If you are asking for favours without any strong ties, the entire interaction can feel like begging, a transaction with no roots. Shortcut strategies and hustling without context can backfire. People may be ghosting you because you deserve that.
  2. Embrace The Awkward: Instead of feeling rejected or haunted by the sudden loss of conversation, one can send a brief, lighthearted message to help the other person reconnect if they wish to. They will let you know the reason for their not replying, and if they still don’t reply, simply move on.

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MORE IDEAS FROM So, You Got Ghosted — at Work

Ghosting can happen anywhere:

  • During a job interview when someone the prospective candidate ghosts the recruiter after a series of interviews.
  • During hiring when the recruiter ghosts the candidate even after all the application process and the hiring has been completed, with only the employment contract formalities remaining.
  • Many newly hired candidates don’t show up on Day one, wasting the HR resources of the employer.

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Professionally Ghosted

To be ghosted by your professional contacts, like a Linkedin connection, your prospective client, or your office colleague can feel confusing, with a sense of rejection that can shatter your confidence.

We try to retrace our steps and figure out what went wrong, and also try to follow up for the sake of closure.

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Many employees suddenly quit a bad job, never showing up the next day. This can also be due to their getting a better offer with immediate joining.

Professional networking is prone to ghosting, with Linkedin messages suddenly not being responded to, or a client that is being pitched for a prospective sale suddenly losing interest and blocking contact.

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We all hate it when someone ghosts us, both professionally and personally because of the Zeigarnik Effect. This is a phenomenon that makes our brain linger on to something that is unresolved, unfinished or demands closure.

There is a cognitive tension inside our minds that makes us want to seek out a satisfactory resolution instead of being stuck in limbo.

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  1. People don’t like to say no, and suddenly not responding seems an easier and lazier option than a nuanced, thoughtful response that will take time and energy.
  2. People avoid conflict and don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings.
  3. They are waiting for an update or a decision from someone else and don’t have the authority to respond.
  4. They are stuck in bureaucratic discussions and internal office problems, which is also a red flag.
  5. They may be too busy or sick.

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Ghosted by a candidate

According to research from Indeed.com, 28% of candidates ghosted an employer during 2020, which is up from 18% in 2019.

In a tough hiring market, ghosting puts companies in a rough spot. More than two-thirds of hiring managers say that candidates dropping off during the application process is a problem for their company.

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Hustler - The go-getter

The word hustler means an aggressively enterprising person or a go-getter. Hustlers have a great ability for getting what they want from a new person or situation.

If you want to rehab your career, hustle yourself into new conversations with people who can help you land your dream job.

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Waiting For The Email Response

A common scenario in the world of remote working is waiting for a response for the email one has sent, looking for the information, input or conversation that is required from a coworker or a client.

While we start to think that we are being ghosted, it is common for people to delay email responses as they are juggling work and personal commitments, and our email does not make it to their top 10 list of must-do work. We can keep a few things in mind while reaching the person again in a follow up email.

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