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How to use storytelling to connect with others
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We’ve all experienced getting bullied or criticized and then, hours later, coming up with a good zinger we wish we had said in the moment. We replay the scene in our head, spinning out what we wanted to have happened instead of what actually went down.
But replaying scenes in your head is a two-sided coin. If you replay the scene and imagine getting what you needed in the moment—feeling empowered, soothed, it can be an extremely worthwhile daydream. In fact, when done with a qualified therapist, this is called imagery rescripting , and is a cutting -edge tool in treating trauma survivors.
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Would you lend money to a man who does not pay back ? The same thing goes for criticism. Does the critique come from someone you like and respect?
In short, you’d take criticism very differently if it was presented with care from someone you trust versus shouted from a moving car. Consider ...
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Individuals hypersensitive to criticism often have high moral standards. They have a strict moral code and their values run deep. And that’s a good thing. But this is one of the few places where strong values can have a downside.
Getting unfair or undue criticism is similar. Feeling annoye...
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There is a straight line between hypersensitivity and perfectionism. Individuals who take things personally often work really hard to be blameless, flawless, or excellent precisely so no one will criticize them. When they get negative feedback, it feels like it blows away all they’ve worked so ha...
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Now, “taking things personally” usually brings to mind images of silent fuming or screaming into our pillow, but there’s something to be said for taking things to heart.
The opposite of taking things personally is to depersonalize them. And when you depersonalize an action or a rol...
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Every one of us has a tender underbelly of our psyche. Everyone has something they’re sensitive about, where even a gentle poke can feel more like a thwack. Comments don’t slide off like water from a duck’s back; rather, we feel more like a sitting duck.
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People say mean things. People can be dumb. It’s only human to make a mistake and say something critical or insulting, but if it happens again and again, it’s not a mistake anymore, it’s a pattern.
To paraphrase, critique me once, that’s on you. Critique me twice, that’s on me. But if you’r...
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