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Our Expectations Are The Problem
- Expecting that life will turn out the way we want it to be is a sure-fire way to experience disappointment, because life does not check our expectations before happening.
- If our unfulfilled expectations involve other people who have ‘failed’ to behave how we expected them to, we are making a critical mistake by getting angry about it.
- If we are not angry if the cup of coffee we expected from ourselves did not materialize, then why do we get angry if someone else did not make us one?
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Let Go Of Expectations
We cannot even understand ourselves, so it is futile to think that we can fully understand other people.
- Normally, we would not do something inconsistent with our values and goals, so we cannot demand others to fulfill our expectations if it is not consistent with th...
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Expecting From Other People
Expectations sound logical when things are in our own hands, but expecting others to behave in a certain way will not automatically make it so. And when our expectations are not lived up to by others, we feel shocked and resentful.
These resentments become premedit...
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Expectations: Premeditated Resentments
Before expecting something, we have to understand two psychological facts:
- Merely expecting something will not make it happen.
- If we hope to have our expectations fulfilled and those hopes do not have a valid reason, there is bound to be a disappointment.
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Expectations: The Necessary Steps
Just merely using magic thinking and expecting something is not going to get us anything, setting us up for eventual disappointment. If we want something to happen, we have to take the necessary steps to facilitate the same.
Example: Simply wishing for a cup of coffee ...
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Unspoken Expectations: Guaranteed Failure
- Not speaking to others or having zero communication about one’s expectations is almost guaranteed to make it a failure.
- Open communication is essential to improve the chances of one’s expectations becoming a reality, but that is also not enough.
- Merely communicating someth...
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Magical Thinking: Law Of Attraction
Psychologist Jean Piaget found that young children have expectations and believe that their thoughts have direct effects on the things around them, something referred to as Magical Thinking.
According to the psychologist, we outgrow this tendency by age 7, but it is clear that man...
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Expectations: The Necessary Steps
Just merely using magic thinking and expecting something is not going to get us anything, setting us up for eventual disappointment. If we want something to happen, we have to take the necessary steps to facilitate the same.
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Expectations: Premeditated Resentments
Before expecting something, we have to understand two psychological facts:
- Merely expecting something will not make it happen.
- If we hope to have our expectations fulfilled and those hopes do not have a valid reason, there is bound to be a disappointment.
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