Expectations: The Necessary Steps

Expectations sound logical when things are in our own hands, but expecting others to behave in a certain way will not automatically make it so. And when our expectations are not lived up to by others, we feel shocked and resentful.

These resentments become premedit...

Psychologist Jean Piaget found that young children have expectations and believe that their thoughts have direct effects on the things around them, something referred to as Magical Thinking.

According to the psychologist, we outgrow this tendency by age 7, but it is clear that man...

• Expecting that life will turn out the way we want it to be is a sure-fire way to experience disappointment, because life does not check our expectations before happening.
• If our unfulfilled expectations involve other people who have ‘failed’ to behave how we expect...

Before expecting something, we have to understand two psychological facts:

1. Merely expecting something will not make it happen.
2. If we hope to have our expectations fulfilled and those hopes do not have a valid reason, there is bound to be a disappointment.

• Not speaking to others or having zero communication about one’s expectations is almost guaranteed to make it a failure.
• Open communication is essential to improve the chances of one’s expectations becoming a reality, but that is also not enough.
• Merely communicating someth...