Why it's so tempting to build walls and shut people out (and what to do instead)
SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:
We all have busy schedules, but we are incorrectly planning our day around the time we have, not around priorities.
Our estimates on how long certain tasks will take are almost always ...
The Decision Matrix on how to approach tasks has 4 quadrants:
Prioritize the important (Quadrant 2) to attain maximum benefit from your work.
We often associate eating with relief or even excitement, and it’s only natural that we’d reach for those same feelings when we’re worried or sad.
Comfort foods don’t tend to be healthy. We want cake or pasta or chips when we’re emotionally eating. We have emotional memories around certain foods, which are more likely to involve your grandma’s lasagna than a salad.
But after we eat for emotional reasons, we’re replacing our original feelings with the emotions that arise out of eating.
We associate comfort food with positive memories.
Think about all the happy and comforting memories you have involving food. Maybe your family used to celebrate occasions with a trip to the ice cream shop, or maybe your mom or dad used to soften the blow of a bad day with macaroni and cheese. When you’re feeling rejected or anxious today, eating one of those foods is an instant connection to that soothing time.
Recognize what happened and how you feel. Suppressing your emotions will get you nowhere. It’s important to first focus on how you feel.
You can also journal your emotions or speak with a clo...
Take a step out of the emotions and stress to really look at the facts of the situation. Try to look at the situation objectively and seek ways to work productively toward solving it.
Get an outside perspective, if you struggle with getting the facts in an objective manner.
Once we’ve made what we’d call a bad decision, we give it a lot of meaning it does not inherently have.
So try to mentally separate yourself from the decision. Doing so can help you strip it of its power.