Before moving on to the future, we have to reflect on the past, because this is where we’re going to get our learnings and our feedback from.A great way to do that is through journaling based on some good prompts. All the prompts that Aileen is sharing in this video are based on her 2024 Artist of Life Workbook (you can find the link in the description below her video). Even if you don’t have her notebook, you can simply use any notebook or Word document to answer these prompts.

Reflect on the past year...

<ul><li>Finish the sentence: 2023 was the year that I...</li><li>What was 2023 all about for you? You can summarize it in a phrase, a sentence, or maybe even a word.</li></ul> <ul><li>List all your highlights and accomplishments from 2023 that you’re proud of.</li></ul> <ul><li>What worked in 2023? What were your wins? What were the things that worked for you, whether it was something big or small? Maybe you added a positive habit, or maybe you adopted a new positive belief this year.</li></ul> <ul><li>What didn’t work in 2023?Name at least 3 mistakes or failures that you had this year, and then write what you learned from them.</li></ul>

Here are the prompts:

<ul><li>What did I learn in 2023?You can write about your life lessons, or you can list the skills that you learned this year.</li></ul> <ul><li>How did my life evolve in 2023? Reflect on how you grew and how your life changed throughout the course of the year.</li></ul>﻿<ul><li>What about 2023 am I most grateful for? Make a list of all the things for which you are most grateful this year. (You can list just a few, or you can journal as many things as you want.)</li></ul>

1. It’s important to look at life like a beginner and to have a beginner’s mind in everything that you approach. Only this way, your mind is completely open, you’re a blank slate, and you’re humble. If you think you know everything, your mind is fixed, and it’s closed off to learning something new.2. You have to continue to challenge yourself in order to grow. You can’t just do the same things and expect better results. You have to get out of your comfort zone, do something new, try something different, and take some risks to move on to the next level.

Things that Aileen learned this past year 

3. It’s important to detach your self-worth from the results. Sometimes we challenge ourselves, and it fails, making us feel bad about ourselves. Instead of letting failures and mistakes make you feel down, take them as pure information.And use this information to try again and do better next time. Look at the things you do as experiments. Approach everything in your life with a detached mindset, as it’s not about things going perfectly; it’s about doing, trying, and learning. Everything is information that will teach you how to do better next time and move to the next level.

 Everything is information 

These prompts will help you reflect on your past year, therefore making it even clearer what you really want in the upcoming year.

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This idea delves into the growing concern that many young men are entering adulthood without the necessary skills and knowledge to navigate life effectively. Several factors contribute to this issue:<ul><li>Lack of Role Models</li><li>Educational System Limitations</li><li>Changing Societal Expectations</li><li>Mental Health Stigma</li><li>﻿Economic Challenges</li></ul>

Addressing the Challenges Facing Young Men

The absence of evil is not an automatic indication of the presence of good.

As men, there's immense value in offering support to those around us. Our ability to positively influence others' lives through even the smallest gestures cannot be underestimated. A kind word, a listening ear, or a simple act of kindness can have a profound impact on someone's day. Embracing this role can transform daily interactions into opportunities for positive change.

Empowering Through Support: The Impact of Small Actions

The concept of being a "dangerous" man isn't about physical intimidation or aggression, but rather about embodying strength with responsibility. It's not limited to the ability to lift weights or appear tough; it's about having the capability and readiness to protect and stand up for what's right. This kind of danger is a positive attribute—a controlled power used for good. It involves being formidable in character and action when circumstances demand it, ensuring that this strength is never a threat to others but a shield for those in need.

Strength with Purpose: The Role of the 'Dangerous' Good Man

True manhood involves the courage to acknowledge past mistakes and the commitment to make positive changes. It's about accepting our faults, learning from them, and using these insights to improve ourselves and the lives of those around us. This process is not just about self-improvement; it's a journey towards becoming a more responsible, understanding, and empathetic individual.

Evolving Manhood: Embracing Past Faults for a Better Future

I would love to see in the comment section your opinion on what is the best trait that a man can have!

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Dewayne has been living the horse life for over 30 years, both as a professional and as a private owner. As a husband of 30 years, the father of 7 grown children and "Grumpa" to 5 grandchildren, this aspect of his life and experience cannot be separated from the reality of who he is, and makes its way into the mix as well. As a Christian with a varied and unique history in the ministry, and a sometime law enforcement officer, he also brings these life experiences to the table.

It is not the purpose of this channel to present "the" way to do anything, but rather to use simple logic and experience to try to help others who might be looking for answers. It does not always offer direct answers to certain questions, but instead humbly seeks to show a road one might go down to find the answers they need for themselves.



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Creative and innovative problem-solving often involves a combination of both:
<ul>
<li>Intuition</li>
<li>Logic</li>
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Problem-solving often involves a combination of both

The synergy between intuition and logic allows individuals to explore imaginative ideas (intuition) while also grounding them in a rational framework (logic). This integrative approach often leads to innovative solutions that are not only creative but also feasible and effective.

Intuition and logic

Intuition plays a role in<ul><li> Recognizing patterns</li><li> Making connections</li><li>Generating creative ideas</li><li> It involves tapping into one's instincts and hunches to explore possibilities beyond what is immediately apparent.</li></ul>

Intuition

Logic provides the framework for<ul><li>Evaluating and refining ideas</li><li>It involves systematic reasoning, critical analysis, and ensuring that the proposed solutions align with the given constraints or requirements.</li></ul>

Logic

To solve problems effectively, use both gut feeling and reasoning. It helps in finding the best solution.<ul><li>Use both intuition and logic for better problem solving</li><li>Balancing both emotions and rational thinking results in effective solutions</li></ul>

Improving Problem Solving Skills

🔑Balancing intuition and logic 🔐In leadership decisions, by integrating both logical and intuitive approaches, you create a well-rounded problem-solving strategy that not only addresses the practical aspects of the problem but also taps into creative and holistic insights.

Balance 🗝️

The combination of both intuition and logic in creative problem solving and innovative problem solving.

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Having a strong intuition doesn't imply a lack of logic. In fact, individuals with a well-developed intuition often incorporate logical reasoning into their decision-making processes. Intuition and logic can coexist and complement each other. While intuition may involve subconscious processing, drawing on patterns and experiences, it doesn't negate the importance of logical thinking. Many people use a combination of both intuition and logic to navigate various situations and make informed decisions.

Understanding intuition 

In many cases, our intuition can be a reliable guide. After all, it comes from within, a sense we inherently possess.Reasons to trust your intuition:<ul><li>Intuition is based on past experiences, making it a valuable tool for decision-making.</li><li>It can offer a fresh perspective to help solve problems creatively.</li><li>Intuition is our inner compass, guiding us towards what truly matters.</li><li>So trust your intuition and let it guide you towards your decision-making process.</li></ul>

Why You Should Trust Your Intuition More

The Power of Intuition

Learning to control your thoughts, emotions, and body helps you gain mastery of your mind.

The 5-4-3-2-1 method will distract your mind long enough for you to regain a sense of control. Doctors use this method to help patients overcome panic disorders.

Here is how the 5-4-3-2-1 method works:Slowly count down from five to one. As you count down, use each number as a cue to engage one of your five senses.<ul><li> Five – look at five objects in your environment. </li><li>Four – hear four distinct sounds.</li><li> Three – feel three sensations. </li><li>Two – detect two smells. </li><li>One – identify one taste.</li></ul>

The 5-4-3-2-1 method 

Think of consciousness as a ball of awareness that moves in and out of your body. When you’re lost in thought, your ball of awareness hovers inside your mind, bouncing around like a pinball with all the what-ifs scenarios you’re thinking of “What if this happens? What if that happens? What if I’d done things differently?”. If you take a second to notice the fine details of an object in your environment, like the lines and colors of your wood desk, your ball of awareness leaves your mind and hovers over the desk.

By performing the 5-4-3-2-1 method, you keep your ball of awareness outside of your head long enough to lower your anxiety and regain a sense of control.

Behind every ‘overthinking episode’ is a debilitating belief. For example, if your mind is racing before a presentation, you must believe you are unprepared and will bomb.

Counter-Belief Experiment

Overcome negative thought patterns, reduce stress, and live a worry-free life.Overthinking is the biggest cause of unhappiness. Don't get stuck in a never-ending thought loop. Stay present and keep your mind off things that don't matter, and never will.Break free of your self-imposed mental prison.Stop Overthinking is a book that understands where you've been through,the exhausting situation you've put yourself into, and how you lose your mind in the trap of anxiety and stress. Acclaimed author Nick Trenton will walk you through the obstacles with detailed and proven techniques to help you rewire your brain, control your thoughts, and change your mental habits.What's more, the book will provide you scientific approaches to completely change the way you think and feel about yourself by ending the vicious thought patterns.Stop agonizing over the past and trying to predict the future.Nick Trenton grew up in rural Illinois and is quite literally a farm boy. His best friend growing up was his trusty companion Leonard the dachshund. RIP Leonard. Eventually, he made it off the farm and obtained a BS in Economics, followed by an MA in Behavioral Psychology.Powerful ways to stop ruminating and dwelling on negative thoughts.-How to be aware of your negative spiral triggers-Identify and recognize your inner anxieties-How to keep the focus on relaxation and action-Proven methods to overcome stress attacks-Learn to declutter your mind and find focusUnleash your unlimited potential and start living.No more self-deprecating talk. No more sleepless nights with racing thoughts. Free your mind from overthinking and achieve more, feel better, and unleash your potential. Finally be able to live in the present moment.

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<ul><li>Be good to yourself first, then to others.</li><li>What you feeling is not something that should just be ignored, but something very significant.</li><li>When you care yourself first, the world will also find you worthy of care.</li><li>One of our common mistake is to compare how we feel inside with how our friends appear outside.</li></ul>

Don't be Too Good

<ul><li>Because each person's situation is different, it's difficult to draw any firm conclusions.</li><li>Don't let your difficult past define who you are today. If you do, you will live your whole life as a victim of the past.</li></ul>

Your Existence is Already Enough

<ul><li>There are many aspects of life that we can not control.</li><li>Children want to admire their parents. You won't win their admiration by being overprotective.</li></ul>

Parents

<ul><li>If you love someone, rather than doing what you think they need, do what they themselves ask you to do.</li><li>With a little planning, you can continue to enjoy your life while looking after someone close to you.</li><li>However close a relationship is, some question are better left unasked.</li></ul>

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Because you have experienced pain, you are able to embrace the pain of others.Because you have made mistakes, you are able to forgive others their mistakes.May your suffering become the seed of compassion.

Experiencing Pain

<ul><li>The process of healing begins when we open our hearts and listen empathetically.</li><li>Rather than trying to improve someone, just be a mirror, reflecting them without judgement.</li></ul>

Listening is an Act of Love

What heart-throbbing love brings with it are all just passengers on the same ship.

Relationships

Do not complain someone has not accommodated your every desire. The real problem may be your expectation that others must adapt you. The person who always adapts to you? There is no such saint in the world.

Dealing with Dissapointment

The reason we think we are better than others is that inferiority still lurks within us. A sense of superiority exists because of a sense of inferiority.

Inferiority and Superiority

Someone's true self can not be known by the things that are easy to judge, like physical appearance, academic degree, job title, etc.

Judgement

Are you suffering from anxiety?Try prioritizing your worries by writing them down.

Anxiety

Instead of settling for the vague hope that things will be okay if you just try harder next time, figure out exactly where you went wrong, and don't repeat the same mistake again.

Did You Fail at a Job Interview?

<ol><li>When depressing thought comes to you, remember that it is only a single, passing cloud in the big sky of your mind.</li><li>If your depression is triggered by negative comments about you by people who don't know you very well, you should understand that though it sounds like they're talking about you, their words say more about their own negative psychological state than they do about you.</li><li>We have to keep in mind that most thoughts are personal opinions based on our limited experience.</li></ol>

How to Beat Back Depression?

There is always a gap between what you know and how you act.

Knowledge vs Action

Emotions are like uninvited guests. They come whenever they want to, and leave once you acknowledge their presence. Although emotions are born inside of you, don't assume that they belong to you. That is why they rarely listen to you.

The Art of Letting Go

When someone is praised greatly, two beats later the criticism start.

Praise and Criticism

The opposite of greed is not abstinence but knowing how to be content.

Greed

Susan Cain, New York Times bestselling author of Quiet: "The world could surely use a little more love, a little more compassion, and a little more wisdom. In Love for Imperfect Things, Haemin Sunim shows us how to cultivate all three, and to find beauty in the most imperfect of things--including your very own self." A #1 internationally bestselling book of spiritual wisdom about learning to love ourselves, with all our imperfections, by the Buddhist author of The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down Hearing the words "be good to yourself first, then to others" was like being struck by lightning. Many of us respond to the pressures of life by turning inward and ignoring problems, sometimes resulting in anxiety or depression. Others react by working harder at the office, at school, or at home, hoping that this will make ourselves and the people we love happier. But what if being yourself is enough? Just as we are advised on airplanes to take our own oxygen first before helping others, we must first be at peace with ourselves before we can be at peace with the world around us. In this beautiful follow-up to his international bestseller The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down, Zen Buddhist monk Haemin Sunim turns his trademark wisdom to the art of self-care, arguing that only by accepting yourself--and the flaws that make you who you are--can you have compassionate and fulfilling relationships with your partner, your family, and your friends. With more than thirty-five full-color illustrations, Love for Imperfect Things will appeal to both your eyes and your heart, and help you learn to love yourself, your life, and everyone in it. When you care for yourself first, the world begins to find you worthy of care.

Zen Buddhist teacher, bestselling author & founder of the School for Broken Hearts in Seoul.Born in South Korea and educated at Berkeley, Harvard, and Princeton, he received formal monastic training from Haein monastery, South Korea and taught Asian religions at Hampshire College in Massachusetts for seven years.He is one of the most influential Zen monks in the world, with over 1.5 million followers on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. His first book, The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down has been translated into more than 35 different languages and sold over four million copies.His second book, Love for Imperfect Things was the number one bestseller of the year 2016 in South Korea and became available in multiple languages in 2019.

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<h3>Christmas is a holiday celebrated on December 25th every year to commemorate the birth of Jesus Christ.</h3>🎁 Gift giving:<ul><li>People exchange presents with loved ones to show love and appreciation.</li><li>Act of kindness: It is a time to help those less fortunate by volunteering, donating to charity, or spreading joy.</li></ul>🎅 Santa Claus:<ul><li>A fictional character who brings gifts for children. He is known for his bright red suit and jolly personality.</li><li>His story is based on Saint Nicholas, a generous bishop who gave gifts to the poor.</li></ul>

The History of Christmas 

Christmas teaches us the joy of giving without expecting anything in return, fostering a spirit of generosity.

Generosity

Reflecting on the holiday season encourages gratitude for what we have, emphasizing the importance of appreciating life's blessings.

Gratitude

Christmas underscores the significance of spending quality time with family, reinforcing the importance of those connections.

Family Bonds

Acts of kindness, whether through gifts or gestures, become prominent during Christmas, illustrating the impact of compassion on others.

Kindness

Christmas traditions provide a sense of continuity and stability, teaching us the value of shared experiences and rituals.

Traditions

Amidst the festivities, the simplicity of heartfelt moments and shared laughter becomes a valuable lesson in finding joy in the little things.

Joy in Simplicity

The anticipation leading up to Christmas day teaches patience, emphasizing the reward that comes with waiting for something special.

Patience

Christmas often promotes a sense of community and togetherness, highlighting the strength found in unity and shared celebrations.

Community Spirit

The end of the year encourages reflection on the past and anticipation for the future, fostering personal growth and self-awareness.

Reflection

The holiday season instills a sense of hope, reminding us that even in challenging times, there is room for positivity and optimism.

Hope

Enjoy this special holiday with loved ones and spread joy and kindness. 🌟🎁

Merry Christmas!🎄🎅

This list of Valuable Life Lessons to Teach Your Kids This Christmas can guide you in showing your kids the true meaning of the holiday season.

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Lessons from Christmas

If you are irritated by every rub, how will your mirror be polished?

Raise your words, not voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.

Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along.

Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.

Wherever you are, and whatever you do, be in love.

When you go through a hard period,When everything seems to oppose you,... When you feel you cannot even bear one more minute,NEVER GIVE UP!Because it is the time and place that the course will divert!

You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean in a drop.

When someone is counting outgold for you, don't look at your hands,or the gold. Look at the giver

2344 quotes from Rumi: 'Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.', 'Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing 
and rightdoing there is a field.
I'll meet you there.

When the soul lies down in that grass
the world is too full to talk about.', and 'The wound is the place where the Light enters you.'

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Many people set resolutions, but often they remain fantasies. However, the underlying hope of becoming a better version of oneself is admirable.

Embracing New Year's Resolutions

Aspirations often require forming new habits, which can be challenging amidst a busy schedule. However, the workplace provides a substantial daily block of time for potential improvement.

Overcoming the Challenge of New Habits

Devoting just 10% of the workday to deliberate practice can significantly contribute to personal and professional advancement.

Investing Time in Deliberate Practice

Reflecting on personal career advancement, dedicating time to getting better at existing skills proved to be the key.

Advancement Through Commitment

Experience can streamline familiar tasks, but it might hinder exploration of new approaches. Actively choosing the longer route and focusing on aesthetics through deliberate practice can lead to novel solutions and continuous learning.

Programming: Balancing Experience and Innovation

Searching for aesthetic satisfaction in work, characterized by clarity, cohesion, consistency, and conciseness, often unveils valuable lessons.

The Beauty of Aesthetic Satisfaction

A practical way to apply aesthetic principles is by repeatedly reading and rewriting drafts, whether in programming or decision-making.

Practical Implementation: Reading and Rewriting

The pull request serves not only as a collaborative tool with others but also as a means of self-collaboration. It offers a comprehensive view of the work, aiding in evaluating both functionality and design.

Collaboration with Self: The Pull Request

Juniors often overlook the value of careful, repeated study of their own work, whether in programming or other disciplines. Refining techniques early pays off throughout one's career.

The Importance of Self-Study

Applying the repetition loop—write, revise, repeat—similar to doing reps in a gym, enhances writing skills over time. Incremental improvements through consistent effort yield significant results.

Writing: The Repetition Loop

Career growth is a marathon, not a sprint. Taking time to refine skills pays dividends throughout a long career. Prioritizing quality over speed is essential for long-term success.

The Intellectual Iron Man

Acknowledging the incremental pursuit of betterment and dedicating time to refine techniques is crucial for professional growth. Slowing down to do things smoothly ultimately leads to increased efficiency.

Deciding What Matters

Work provides ample opportunities for improvement; the main challenge is the will to seize them. Make 2024 count by moving obstacles and witnessing the transformative power of a year dedicated to growth.

Seizing Opportunities in 2024

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