Can I tell you something beautiful a guy in a mosque once told me?I was complaining to him about people being bad. I was saying: “I don’t understand: Why are people bad? How do people sleep at night? Why do they do this, why do they do that? I’ve been screwed over by people all the time and I’m the good person.”And he said: “No, no, no. Why do you look at things like that? Think of it in this way: We are all vessels. If people took the love from you, if they took the time from you, let them keep it; they needed it. You were part of their prayer: God answered their prayer through you.”

And that resonated so much in me, that every time someone does me wrong now, yes, I’m human, I get hurt, but the pain is not what it used to be, because I’m like: “You know what? I’m sure God answered their prayer through me.”And then I look up at God and I say: “God, you have such an amazing sense of humour!”

“We are all vessels. If people took the love from you, if they took the time from you, let them keep it; they needed it. You were part of their prayer: God answered their prayer through you.”

Good has an amazing sense of humour. #SaraAlMadani #relationshipproblems #lifeadvice #feelingdown

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1. Focus on self-actualisation as an ACTION
Think actively about what may be fulfilling today. Not everything in my day will be fulfilling, but actively SEEK opportunities to do things you enjoy and are good at doing.
Ask yourself
What would i do if money wasn't an option?What activities do i lose myself in?
2. Seek fulfilment in different parts of my life, not just "my one passion"
Even quiet moments can be lovely, doing hobbies, volunteering or spending time with others. Most people have only ONE fulfilling thing in life.

Action and Passion

3. Build circle of positive influence
Ask yourself who do associate? Who brings me down?
Spend more time with people who are actively seeking fulfilment and trying to solve problems
4. Be Patient
Life is long, some weeks/months are dry or have zero results, but stick with it.

Build circle of positive influence and Be Patient

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I think since starting a job, it's hit me pretty hard that my current routine is basically the next 30 years of my life, potentially. And I've HAD to stop seeing fulfilment as a destination I'll reach once I've accomplished professional goals, and instead to start finding FULFILMENT IN EVERYDAY LIFE 🙌

So, I've been looking for ways to find fulfilment in the small things - that has meant building up powerful habits to change my mindset in a few key areas. And those habits are meaning I feel more happy and fulfilled with everyday life 😀

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Around that, I'm a big fan of discovering new ways of thinking, of balancing work with life, and of performing to the very best of my ability. Ohh, and being happy. And I try to share all that on this YouTube channel 😀

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Why Your Life Is So Boring - 4 Habits To Find Fulfilment

4 Habits To Find Fulfilment

Embrace curiosity and a thirst for knowledge. Ask questions about the world around you and seek answers through research, reading, and exploration. Curiosity is the foundation of intellectual growth.

1. Having a Curious Engaged Mind

I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious.

Reading is one of the most effective ways to expand your intellectual horizons. Explore a diverse range of books, articles, and academic papers. Don't limit yourself to one genre or subject; broaden your interests. This can be for any subject as well!

2. Read MORE

Practice critical thinking by analyzing information and ideas from multiple perspectives. Evaluate arguments, evidence, and sources critically. This will help you make informed decisions and solve complex problems.

3. Critical Thinking Daily!

Make learning a lifelong habit. Attend lectures, workshops, and online courses. Stay up-to-date with developments in your field of interest, and be open to learning from experts and peers. This will also help mentally keep you sharp and healthy

4. Pursue Infinite Knowledge 

"Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world."

Engage in meaningful conversations with others. Share your thoughts and listen to theirs. Discussing ideas and debating different viewpoints can sharpen your intellectual skills and broaden your understanding.

5. Engage More In Conversation 

Put what you learn into practice. Apply your knowledge to real-world situations. Solve problems, create, and innovate. Active application reinforces your understanding and helps you retain information. You got this!

6. Application Of Gathered Knowledge!

Remember that becoming more intellectually intelligent is a continuous process. Stay committed, be patient with yourself, and enjoying the journey of expanding your intellectual horizons. Also remember you are human, so don't go to hard on yourself!

Reminder: Mental Health Is Overall Important 

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You feel emotions intensely, so when you feel joy you are on top of the world.

👍 Intense Joy

This means you also feel painful emotions deeply and can feel overwhelmed by them.

👎 Deep Emotions

Your creativity thrives in a slower paced environment.

👍 Slow-Paced Creativity

When too much is going on around you it can be overwhelming and stressful.

👎 Overwhelm & Stress

Empathy is your strength and you feel deeply affected by the mood and emotions of people around you.

👍 Empathy

Seeing violence on TV can cause you intense distress and you tend to avoid it.

👎 TV Violence Distress

Understand the unique emotional landscape of HSPs as they journey through life's ups and downs.

The UPS and DOWNS of being a HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON

Friendships are an essential part of our lives, providing us with companionship, support, and a sense of belonging. While many friendships require effort and mutual obligations, there are some unique relationships that don't demand anything from us. These friendships, often referred to as unconditional friendships, can be incredibly valuable and fulfilling. Here are some key points to consider about friendships that don't demand anything from us:

Unconditional friendships are built on a genuine connection between individuals. They are based on mutual respect, trust, and understanding. In these relationships, there is no need for pretense or putting on a facade; both parties can be their authentic selves.

1. Genuine Connection

Unlike other friendships where expectations may arise, unconditional friendships are free from any demands or obligations. There is no pressure to constantly be available or to fulfill specific roles. Both friends understand that they can rely on each other without any strings attached.

2. No Expectations

In friendships that don't demand anything from us, there is an understanding that both individuals accept each other as they are, flaws and all. These friends provide a safe space where you can share your thoughts, feelings, and experiences without fear of judgment or criticism.

3. Non Judgmental Support

Unconditional friendships contribute significantly to our emotional well-being. They provide a source of comfort during challenging times and a platform to celebrate our successes. Knowing that we have someone who genuinely cares about us and is always there for us creates a sense of security and happiness.

4 Emotional Well-being

In friendships that don't demand anything from us, there is room for personal growth and individual pursuits. Both friends understand that personal development is essential and support each other's aspirations without feeling threatened or left behind.

5. Freedom To Grow

Unconditional friendships are built on a foundation of mutual respect. Both individuals value and appreciate each other's boundaries, opinions, and choices. There is no pressure to conform or change for the sake of the friendship.

6. Mutual Respect

These friendships are characterized by their transparency and authenticity. There are no hidden agendas or ulterior motives. Both friends genuinely care for each other's well-being and happiness, without expecting anything in return.

7. No Hidden Agenda

Friendships that don't demand anything from us have the potential to last a lifetime. The absence of expectations and demands allows the relationship to evolve naturally and withstand the test of time.

8. Long Lasting Bonds

Although these friendships don't demand anything from us, they still involve reciprocal support. While there may not be specific obligations, both friends are there for each other when needed, providing emotional support, advice, and a listening ear.

9. Reciprocal Support

Ultimately, friendships that don't demand anything from us are rooted in unconditional love. They are based on a deep affection and care for each other, regardless of circumstances or personal gain.

10. So Much Love

friendships that don't demand anything from us are unique and valuable relationships that contribute to our overall well-being. They provide a safe space, genuine connection, and unconditional support without any expectations or obligations. Cultivating and nurturing such friendships can bring immense joy and fulfillment to our lives.

Unconditional Friendships

"Love isn't something you find, love will itself find you"

We never feel that anyone in this world is better than the one we love.The world seems beautiful, everything seems good and complete, it has happened to everyone and will continue to happen, I myself have been a part of it.

A Beautiful Feeling.

Honestly, It is a very sweet journey to reach oneself.

But what about that love which sometimes causes pain and sufferings? It does not matter whether it is knowingly or unknowingly, but it is a fact that addiction, pain, separation, and some struggles also emerge in love.

What If It Comes With Pain

Recovering from a relationship that caused pain, separation, and struggles can be an incredibly difficult process. The journey to healing and rebuilding oneself requires time, self-reflection, and a commitment to personal growth. However, with the right mindset and support, it is possible to recover and build yourself again, even from the love that once caused so much turmoil.

Recovering From The Love That Caused Pain.

The first step in recovering from a painful relationship is acknowledging and accepting the pain. It is essential to allow yourself to feel the emotions that arise from the breakup or the struggles you faced in the relationship. Give yourself permission to grieve the loss and process the hurt. This may involve seeking therapy or counselling to help navigate through the emotions and gain a deeper understanding of what went wrong.

Acknowledgement.

Self-reflection is a crucial aspect of rebuilding oneself after a challenging relationship. Take time to reflect on your own role in the dynamics of the relationship. Consider the patterns that may have contributed to the pain and struggles. This self-awareness allows you to identify areas for personal growth and change. It also helps you break free from repeating the same mistakes.

Understanding Where It Went Wrong.

During this recovery period, it is essential to focus on self-care and self-love. Engage in activities that bring you joy and promote your well-being. This may include practicing mindfulness, engaging in hobbies, spending time with loved ones, or seeking professional help if needed. Taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally is crucial in rebuilding your sense of self-worth and confidence.

Self Care And Self Love.

Building a support network is another vital component of recovering from a painful relationship. Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Seek out friends, family members, or support groups who understand what you have been through and can provide empathy and guidance. Having a strong support system can help you through the challenging moments and remind you that you are not alone.

Share What You Feel.

As you work on rebuilding yourself, it is important to set boundaries and establish healthy relationship dynamics. Learn to recognize and prioritize your needs and desires. Communicate your boundaries clearly with others and ensure they are respected. This may involve saying no to situations or people that do not align with your values or contribute positively to your life. By setting boundaries, you protect yourself from repeating past patterns and create space for healthier relationships to flourish.

Setting Firm Boundaries.

Lastly, forgiveness is a crucial step in the recovery process. Forgiving yourself and your past partner allows you to let go of resentment and move forward with a clean slate. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or condoning the pain caused rather, it is a way to release the emotional burden that holds you back from fully healing. Forgiveness allows you to reclaim your power and focus on building a brighter future for yourself.

Forgiveness.

It is a transformative journey. Which requires self-reflection, self-care, support, setting boundaries, and forgiveness. Through this process, you can emerge stronger, wiser, and ready to face the world again.this time with a deeper understanding of yourself and what you truly deserve. Remember, healing takes time, so be patient with yourself and trust in your ability to rebuild and find happiness again.

Pain Makes Us Human.

It is said that a person either learns from books or from experiences, a person who learns from experiences does not lose mostly, that is why perhaps these words may be useful for someone. 

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Quotes I liked from the book The Diary of a Young Girl by Anne Frank:
<ul>
<li>"I still believe, in spite of everything, that people are truly good at heart." - Anne Frank </li>
<li>"I can shake off everything as I write; my sorrows disappear, my courage is reborn." - Anne Frank</li>
<li>"I don't think of all the misery, but of the beauty that still remains." - Anne Frank</li>
</ul>

The Diary of a Young Girl - Anne Frank

You only really get to know people when you've had a jolly good row with them. Then and then only can you judge their true characters.

True Character

One must be prepared to make some sacrifices for some good cause.If we can save someone, then everything else is of secondary importance.

Sacrifices

A person can be lonely even if he is loved by many people, because he is still not the "One and Only" to anyone.

Lonely

The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely, or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quite alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be and that God wishes to see people happy, amidst the simple beauty of Nature. As long as this exists, and it certainly always will, I know that then there will always be comfort for every sorrow, whatever the circumstances may be. And I firmly believe that Nature brings solace in all troubles.

What is the use of war? Why can't people live peacefully together?Why all this destruction?

What is done cannot be undone, but one can prevent it from happening again.

I know my own faults and shortcomings better than anyone, but the difference is that I also know that I want to improve, shall improve and have already improved a great deal.

A religion, it doesn't matter which, keeps a person on the right path. It isn't fear of God but the upholding of one's own honour and conscience.

How noble and good everyone could be, if every evening before falling asleep, they were to recall to their minds the events of the whole day and consider exactly what has been good and bad.Then, without realising it, you try to improve yourself at the start of each new day; you achieve quite a lot in the course of time. Anyone can do this, it costs nothing and is certainly very helpful.

Memorable Quotes for the book 'The Diary of a Young Girl' by Anne Frank

THE DEFINITIVE EDITION • Discovered in the attic in which she spent the last years of her life, Anne Frank’s remarkable diary has since become a world classic—a powerful reminder of the horrors of war and an eloquent testament to the human spirit. Updated for the 75th Anniversary of the Diary’s first publication with a new introduction by Nobel Prize–winner Nadia Murad “The single most compelling personal account of the Holocaust ... remains astonishing and excruciating.”—The New York Times Book Review In 1942, with Nazis occupying Holland, a thirteen-year-old Jewish girl and her family fled their home in Amsterdam and went into hiding. For the next two years, until their whereabouts were betrayed to the Gestapo, they and another family lived cloistered in the “Secret Annex” of an old office building. Cut off from the outside world, they faced hunger, boredom, the constant cruelties of living in confined quarters, and the ever-present threat of discovery and death. In her diary Anne Frank recorded vivid impressions of her experiences during this period. By turns thoughtful, moving, and amusing, her account offers a fascinating commentary on human courage and frailty and a compelling self-portrait of a sensitive and spirited young woman whose promise was tragically cut short.

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Annelies Marie "Anne" Frank was a Jewish girl born in the city of Frankfurt, Germany. Her father moved to the Netherlands in 1933 and the rest of the family followed later. Anne was the last of the family to come to the Netherlands, in February 1934. She wrote a diary while in hiding with her family and four friends in Amsterdam during the German occupation of the Netherlands in World War II.She lived in Amsterdam with her parents and sister. During the Holocaust, Anne and her family hid in the attic of her father's office to escape the Nazis.

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In a world that often seems chaotic and overwhelming, simplicity has become a sought-after refuge for many individuals. It is the art of distilling the complex into its purest form, allowing us to appreciate the beauty that lies in the uncomplicated. Simplicity is a mindset that can bring clarity and contentment to our lives.

Embracing the Beauty of Minimalism

At it's core, simplicity is about eliminating excess and focusing on what truly matters. It encourages us to let go of the unnecessary clutter and noise that can cloud our minds and distract us from the essence of life.

What Matters?

By simplifying our surroundings, routines, and thoughts, we create space for what truly brings us joy and fulfillment.

What Makes You Happy..

One of the most prominent areas where simplicity has gained traction is in minimalism. Minimalism is not just about having fewer possessions; it is a deliberate choice to live with intentionality. It encourages us to question our habits and to be mindful of what we bring into our lives. By shedding the excess, we can focus on what truly adds value and meaning to our existence.

Minimalism

Simplicity also extends beyond material possessions. It can be found in the way we structure our daily routines, seeking to streamline and prioritize tasks that align with our values and goals. By simplifying our schedules, we create more time and mental space for activities that truly nourish our souls – whether it's spending time with loved ones, pursuing hobbies, or engaging in self-care.

It's All In Your Daily Routine

In a world that glorifies busyness and constant productivity, simplicity reminds us to slow down and savor the present moment. It encourages us to find beauty in the little things – a quiet walk in nature, a heartfelt conversation with a friend, or the taste of a homemade meal. Simplicity teaches us to appreciate the richness of life's simple pleasures, reminding us that true happiness lies not in the accumulation of things but in the moments we savor and the connections we foster.

Slowing Down

Moreover, simplicity can have a profound impact on our mental and emotional well-being. By decluttering our physical spaces and organizing our thoughts, we create a sense of calm and clarity. It allows us to let go of the unnecessary worries and stress that often plague our minds, enabling us to focus on what truly matters. It provides a sense of freedom and liberation, allowing us to live authentically and in alignment with our values.

It's Mental Too

In a world that often values complexity and excess, embracing simplicity can be a radical act. It challenges social norms and encourages us to redefine our priorities. Reminding us that less is often more, and that true beauty lies in the unadorned and genuine.

Keep It Simple

So, let us embrace simplicity in all its forms – in our possessions, routines, thoughts, and interactions. Let us seek to simplify our lives, not for the sake of deprivation, but to create space for what truly brings us joy and fulfillment. In doing so, we may discover that the truest form of beauty lies in the simplicity that surrounds us every day.

Let's Do It

Simplicity: A Path to Clarity and Contentment

𝐏𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐫𝐞𝐦𝐞𝐦𝐛𝐞𝐫 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐚𝐢𝐝, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐦𝐚𝐝𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥. 𝐀 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐨𝐜𝐮𝐬 𝐨𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐢𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐝𝐢𝐝𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐚𝐲.

Amazing Fact: Memory Recall Won't Mention What You Said

𝐀𝐦𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰...

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Memory Remains Unaffected by Verbal Recall

The Diamond Approach is a contemporary spiritual path that integrates both ancient spiritual teachings and modern depth psychology. Developed by A.H. Almaas (a pen name for Hameed Ali), this approach aims to guide individuals toward realizing their true nature and the inherent reality of the universe.

Self Mastery

Central to the Diamond Approach is the understanding of "Essence" – the true nature of the self, which is seen as a fundamental, pure quality of being. Differentiated aspects of Essence can manifest as qualities like love, strength, clarity, or compassion.

Your Essence 

One of the primary methods used in the Diamond Approach is open-ended inquiry. Rather than following strict dogmas or practices, students are encouraged to explore their personal experiences, feelings, and beliefs deeply and honestly.

Inquiry

The Diamond Approach recognizes that psychological blocks and childhood traumas can hinder spiritual development. By addressing and understanding these issues, individuals can remove barriers to spiritual insight.

Integration of Psychology and Spirituality

Personal experience is highly valued, with the understanding that direct experience (as opposed to intellectual knowledge) is the most reliable source of truth.

The Value of Experience

In the Diamond Approach, the relationship with a teacher can be a critical component. The teacher provides guidance, feedback, and support, helping students navigate and deepen their personal inquiries.

The Role of the Teacher

The approach considers spiritual realization not as a fixed endpoint but as an ever-unfolding process. There's always more depth, nuance, and understanding to discover.

Ongoing Revelation

The "theory of holes" is a concept within the Diamond Approach, as developed by A.H. Almaas. It pertains to the psychological and spiritual understanding of deficiencies or "holes" in the individual's sense of self. These holes arise due to certain childhood experiences where essential aspects of our being are not seen, appreciated, or responded to by our caregivers.

Theory Of Holes

When children do not receive appropriate mirroring or positive feedback for their natural qualities or essence (like joy, strength, love, etc.) from their environment, they can come to believe they lack these qualities. Instead of experiencing these qualities, they feel a void or absence – a "hole."

Origin of Holes

Due to these holes, individuals may develop false beliefs about themselves, thinking they are inadequate, unlovable, or worthless. These beliefs can then become self-fulfilling prophecies, guiding their behavior and interactions.

False Beliefs

To cope with these perceived deficiencies, individuals might develop ego structures or personality traits that serve to compensate. For instance, someone with a hole around "strength" might become overly aggressive or dominant as a way to overcompensate.

Compensatory Mechanisms

Within the context of the Diamond Approach, these holes are explored using inquiry. As individuals delve into their feelings and memories, they begin to recognize and confront these voids, leading to a deeper understanding and eventual healing.

Exploration in Therapy

As one works through and understands the nature of these holes, there's an opportunity to reclaim the lost essential qualities. Instead of feeling the deficiency, individuals can begin to experience and express their true nature and essential qualities more fully.

Reclaiming Essence

The theory of holes offers a framework for understanding how early experiences shape our self-perception and behaviors. By addressing these holes, one can move toward greater wholeness, authenticity, and spiritual realisation.

Embrace Your Holes.

I discovered this series from Dr. Gabor Mate and found these insights mind blowing! Thought I’d share with you all. 

The opening installment in a five-volume series on the Diamond Approach—a path to greater self- and spiritual realization—presented by its founder   Founded by spiritual teacher A. H. Almaas, the Diamond Approach presents a unique path to enlightenment that borrows from modern psychology and therapy. Through the method’s core practice of inquiry, practitioners engage with their inner world—the very qualities and experiences that make them human—as a means of unlocking their potential and discovering the true power of their spiritual nature.   This five-volume series is a collection of Almaas’ lectures on the Diamond Approach. In Elements of the Real Man, he covers topics such as faith, commitment, nobility and suffering, truth and compassion, allowing, and growing up. Through these talks, Almaas offers valuable guidance and advice for those on a spiritual path, and he explores the challenges and psychological barriers faced by those seeking self-realization.

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