“It's only work if you would rather be doing something else.Find a way to carve a career out of what you already want to do.”

“Build small habits. Make big plans.1) Keep your daily actions small. Strive to get 1% better every day.2) Keep your daily mindset big. Think about how you can play a bigger game.Start small, but never dream small.”

“Great work resists compression.Great explanations are short, but potent.Great software delivers the same outcome in fewer clicks.Great manufacturing processes create products in less time and with less waste.The Shape of genius is simplicity "

“A change in perspective is worth 80 IQ points.”

“If I could talk to myself twenty years ago, I would tell myself to focus on my strengths, and not on my weaknesses; on the things I could do and not the things I couldn’t do; to strive to excel and hone those skills to the point of excellence. That this was the best strategy to secure my future. I would say to myself that the only real obstacles you have are those you create for yourself.”

Sometimes we are too hard on ourselves and criticize our mistakes to an unhelpful degree. Sometimes we are too easy on ourselves and let excuses run our lives. Which way are you leaning right now? How can you pull yourself back to center?

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3-2-1: Small habits with big plans, the shape of genius, and advice to a younger self

“Before you try to increase your willpower, try to decrease the friction in your environment.”

“Your habits are how you embody a particular identity.When you make your bed, you embody the identity of someone who is clean and organized. When you study, you embody the identity of someone who is studious.What identity are you embodying today? Who are your habits helping you become?”

“Most big, deeply satisfying accomplishments in life take at least five years to achieve. This can include building a business, cultivating a loving relationship, writing a book, getting in the best shape of your life, raising a family, and more.Five years is a long time. It is much slower than most of us would like. If you accept the reality of slow progress, you have every reason to take action today. If you resist the reality of slow progress, five years from now you'll simply be five years older and still looking for a shortcut.”

“If you care too much about being praised, in the end you will not accomplish anything serious.Let the judgments of others be the consequence of your deeds, not their purpose.”

“You have to make your own happiness, wherever you are. Your job isn’t going to make you happy, your spouse isn’t going to make you happy, the weather isn’t going to make you happy…You have to decide what you want, and you have to find that way of doing it, whether or not the outside circumstances are going to participate in your success…You have to be able to create your own happiness, period. And if you can’t, then you need to find a good shrink who can help you figure out what it’s going to take.”

How, specifically, do you want your life to be better at this time next year?

3-2-1: Happiness, the opinions of others, and accepting the reality of slow progress

“If an idea is true, criticism will not destroy it, but strengthen it.”

“You need focus to become exceptional at anything.Massive amounts of time and energy are wasted optimizing things that should be left undone.You have to be great at saying no.”

“A gift you can give yourself right now:Stop what you're doing. Close your eyes.For the next 60 seconds, just breathe.”

“Quality of life is having the freedom to make choices that are not fear based. Whether it’s the ability to choose the kinds of projects I want to take on and can learn from, or the ability to take a month off to travel. Freedom to choose is the ultimate luxury.”

“One of my guiding principles is don’t do anything that other people are doing. Always do something a little different if you can. The concept is that if you do it a little differently there is a greater potential for reward than if you do the same thing that other people are doing. I think that this kind of goal for one’s work, having obviously the maximum risk, would have the maximum reward no matter what the field may be.”

What is an area you'd like to improve over the next decade? How are you working toward that outcome today? Think long-term. Act short-term.

3-2-1: The effect of criticism, a gift you can give yourself, and the ultimate luxury

“In the long-run, prioritization beats efficiency.”

“When researching strategies, emphasize patterns over stories. One person succeeding means nothing. 100 people succeeding is a signal.When explaining strategies, emphasize stories over patterns. People forget numbers and charts. Everyone remembers a great story.”

“When determining the size or complexity of a new habit ask yourself, “What can I stick to—even on my worst day?”Start there. Master the art of showing up. Then advance.”

“Where I was born and where and how I have lived is unimportant. It is what I have done with where I have been that should be of interest.”

“Reading is migratory, an act of transport, from one life to another, one mind to another. Just like geographic travel, reading involves estrangement that comes with the process of dislocating from a familiar context. I gather energy from this kind of movement, this estranging and unsettling, and I welcome it precisely because it’s conducive to examination, interrogation, reordering. Travel, imaginative or physical, can sharpen perception and force a measuring of distance and difference.”

Before you ask, “What should I do today?” Ask yourself, “What should I remove today?” Create the space you need to succeed.

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Reading & Writing

3-2-1: Prioritization, making the most of what you have, and reading as a form of travel

“The most important battles must be fought anew each day.Exercising today does not render tomorrow's workout unnecessary.Learn to love the endless nature of things and life gets easier.”

“As far as life philosophies go, “The right time is right now” isn't a bad one. Most of us would benefit from a greater bias toward action.If you move fast, you can try more things. And if you try more things, you're likely to find something that works for you.”

“Remove the branches of a thorn bush today and you'll avoid a scrape this year. But next year, you'll face the same problem again.Remove the root of the bush today, and the entire plant will die.Are you solving problems at the branch level or the root level?”

“We all of us have limited amounts of energy, and I am sure the people who are successful have learned, either by instinct or consciously, to use their energies well instead of spilling them about. And this has to be different for every person, writers or otherwise.Trial and error, and then when you’ve found your needs, what feeds you, what is your instinctive rhythm and routine, then cherish it.”

“Every problem, every dilemma, every dead end we find ourselves facing in life, only appears unsolvable inside a particular frame or point of view. Enlarge the box, or create another frame around the data, and problems vanish, while new opportunities appear.”

How can I accomplish my goals as fast as possible at a high quality?

​  1 QUESTION FOR YOU

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Motivation & Inspiration

3-2-1: Moving fast, solving problems, and the various ways to succeed

Everybody gets stuck in negative thinking from time to time:<ul><li>Anxious bouts of worry and catastrophizing</li><li>Depressing spirals of self-criticism and judgment</li><li>Angry cycles of rumination and resentment</li></ul>Unfortunately, the way most people try to deal with their negative thinking is completely unhealthy and only makes the problem worse in the long term.

The Downward Spiral

Just because you’re having negative thoughts doesn’t mean something’s wrong. In fact, negative thinking can be a very good thing!What you want to watch out for is a specific type of negative thinking that is unhelpful.Your brain’s primary job is to keep you safe and that requires some negative thinking.Instead, save your energy for identifying and managing unhelpful or unrealistic negative thinking, which from here on out is what I’m referring to by negative thinking.

Distinguish Helpful vs Unhelpful Negative Thinking

If you understand what types of situations or events are most likely to trigger negative thinking, you can avoid a lot of negative thinking before it even happens.Identify the triggers for negative thinking, deal with those triggers more directly, and you won’t experience nearly as much negative thinking in the first place.

Identify Your Negative Thinking Triggers

Most people are in the habit of only thinking about their negative thinking when it shows up.The best time to do hard, important work is when you’re feeling good, not when your life is falling apart!And this principle applies to negative thinking as well.Instead, you need to practice and prepare for it. And that means taking some time to intentionally confront your negative thinking head-on so that you can get to know it and make a real plan for navigating it at the moment.

Do your negative thinking intentionally, not reactively

Cognitive distortions are errors in thinking that lead to unnecessarily painful and prolonged emotions.We all fall into cognitive distortions from time to time. And while you probably can’t avoid them altogether, you can get much better at noticing them. Anytime you feel your mood dropping or some difficult emotion intensifying, ask yourself:What was I thinking just now? What thoughts led to this shift in emotion or mood?Write down that self-talk on paper and look for any cognitive distortions. Once you find some, calmly and nonjudgmentally identify which they are

Call out Your Cognitive Distortions

The content of your thoughts determines the content of your moods:<ul><li>If you’re constantly worrying, you’re going to feel pretty anxious.</li><li>If you’re chronically ruminating on how someone hurt you, you’re going to feel pretty angry.</li></ul>Negative thinking can lead to painful emotions, but painful emotions can also be a trigger for negative thinking (and more painful emotion!)So it’s worth identifying which emotions or moods tend to make you more susceptible to unhelpful negative thinking patterns.

Identify the Emotions Behind Your Negative Thinking

Negative thinking habits lead to all kinds of emotional struggles from anxiety and depression to relationship conflict and procrastination...

Understand yourself and those around you.

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5 Healthy Ways to Deal with Negative Thinking - Nick Wignall

“Everyone is connected, but no one is in control. In other words, the world we live in is open, fast — and thus, almost by definition, unstable.”

Technology has advanced considerably over the last few decades, but instead of stopping and thinking about how to keep ourselves safe, we have continued to expand. Zakaria describes this as humans having built the fastest sports car ever imaginable. However, we are driving it into the unknown with no seatbelts on. We haven’t equipped any airbags, and we haven’t purchased any insurance. Driving this sports car makes us feel innovative, modern, and powerful, but we experience crashes along the way. These crashes are getting worse with time.

Lesson 1 - Buckle Up

Despite these crashes, we still haven’t stopped to consider the safety precautions we need. Instead, we pull the vehicle over, tune up the suspension, and fix the engine. We continue to make our cars faster and faster, and yet we put ourselves in more profound danger. Zakaria believes the pandemic is an example of a massive crash. He quotes Larry Brilliant’s idea that “Outbreaks are inevitable but pandemics are optional.” We can’t stop the crashes, but we can control their impact. We should not continue our unsustainable expansion after the pandemic.

America believed it was too powerful to collapse financially and politically, but the pandemic has proven us all wrong. Many people have started to associate COVID-19 with political polarization and economic dysfunction. Businesses are in turmoil and there are major debates on both sides about the best way to handle the situation. America may remain the most powerful nation for military personnel, but this means nothing if America’s lives are in danger.

Lesson 2 - Improve the Quality of Government

America is becoming more inward-looking and obsessed with being patriotic. It is missing the opportunity to influence world politics and stand at the forefront of innovation. Most of the world has regarded America as a beacon of knowledge for many years, but America now needs to learn from the rest of the world. It needs to improve the quality of its government and incorporate political stability. This allows it to protect its citizens and their quality of life.

Zakaria accepts that markets with appropriate regulations ensure a relatively level playing field. However, the market performing well does not mean society is performing well. Currently, science, technology, and education in America lack crucial funding. Therefore, Zakaria suggests America needs to take a leaf out of the Nordic countries’ economic policies. This is the only way America can continue to compete with worldwide technological and economic development.

Lesson 3 - Markets Do Not Dictate Happiness

America should continue to accept the importance of markets and understand that some fields need more support. This does not mean we should adopt a carbon copy of Denmark’s economic policies. Instead, America needs to adopt some of these foundations and apply them to America’s reality.

The pandemic and recent American elections have highlighted that people are starting to trust experts less. Part of the problem is that experts have become an elite group who develop power and authority based on their knowledge. Certain countries have pushed back against this elitism, including America and Brazil. This has led to governments built on celebrations of ignorance rather than knowledge. These governments form policies based on populism rather than facts.

Lesson 4 - Experts and People Need to Develop Mutual Respect

America and Brazil’s COVID-19 responses show that rejecting experts’ opinions does not produce good results. However, the responsibility also lies with the experts. Experts must learn to connect with people and avoid an elitist bubble. The most destructive thinking is believing that your success makes you superior in your society. After all, in democracies, at least, the wishes of the population are the ultimate source of authority.

The pandemic pushed us closer to our technology. It has encouraged people to consider the possibility of us becoming completely dependent on computers and artificial intelligence. However, Zakaria argues that we are already practically at this point. A phone in our pocket has greater access to information than any person could possess, and can solve complex tasks in nanoseconds. Many of our systems depend on technology.

Lesson 5 - The Digital World Is Here to Stay

Despite this, Zakaria doesn’t believe we are at a stage where we mistake our technology for our friends. Instead, technology has the potential to make us value our human companions even more. The pandemic has highlighted that humans are more than problem solvers. Humans are brave, loyal, generous, faithful, and loving. At the moment, technology is none of these things.

“The movement to digital is fast and broad and real. But perhaps one of its deepest consequences will be to make us cherish the things in us that are most humans.”

Aristotle described humans as social animals. As humans, we built cities to socialize and help each other. Whether economic, social, or political, almost every significant movement in history began in cities. This was where the individuals responsible could organize and gather to become a force for change. Even though our cities have reached a standstill due to lockdown, the human hard-wiring to socialize will always remain.

Lesson 6 - We Are Social Animals

The lockdown has brought out many people’s tendencies to participate in more significant things than themselves. It has pulled together communities and inspired socialization and cooperation among neighbors. We have seen enormous acts of generosity, kindness, and empathy. We need this connectivity to remain after the pandemic.

The COVID-19 pandemic has highlighted inequality within our society, and it has decreased it in some areas. The most obvious way inequality has narrowed is between the healthy and the ill. Many people who were used to being healthy all the time have crossed the divide and experienced severe illness. Subsequently, many people have changed their views of individuals who are often ill. This has helped form a better understanding of illness and increased empathy in society as a whole.

Lesson 7 - Inequality Will Get Worse

However, pandemics generally make other inequalities more significant. For example, the COVID-19 pandemic has highlighted and reinforced the disparity between the rich & poor. Many who could not afford to stop working have been unable to isolate themselves, even if they are considered at-risk. The wealthier members of society have the luxury of isolating themselves correctly and in better conditions. Their working conditions are also likely to be pleasanter, with more work-from-home spaces and better equipment available. It is highly likely that we will have another pandemic in our lifetimes.

“This should remind us to value the many people whose jobs do not generate huge incomes but are worthwhile, essential, even noble—from scholars and teachers to janitors and street cleaners. The market may not reward them, but we should respect them.”

The new age of technology has connected all the world and created mass globalization. We are more interconnected than ever before, and our economies heavily depend on other economies. Although many countries talk of deglobalization and improved self-sufficiency, there are many areas where this isn’t currently feasible. Although the COVID-19 pandemic has had significant impacts on trade and will continue to do so, it’s unlikely to end globalization.

Lesson 8 - Globalization Is Not Dead

However, Zakaria highlights that hard-edged realpolitik is still lurking. With the rise of China and growing tensions with America, a conflict could be around the corner. Therefore, although globalization has offered fantastic opportunities, it has the potential to create conflict based on economics.

There are many divisions in our world, and these seem to be becoming stronger, both nationally and internationally. The US-China battle is a form of bipolarity. The two countries are different in many ways, and the sense of division is increasing. Both countries are striving for trade, technological, and political dominance. China has begun challenging the US for power. The US’s decline on the global stage has caused many forms of tension. Its poor approach to the COVID-19 pandemic increased these problems. Some experts are concerned about the potential for another Cold War.

Lesson 9 - The World Is Becoming Bipolar

We can see this same bipolarity across large parts of the world in various contexts. For example, the political divide between the right and the left is becoming starker in America and parts of Europe. Zakaria believes this bipolarity is inevitable. However, we can decide whether these differences in opinion lead to violence. This will require collaboration from the whole world, not only China and the US.

“America is, in its DNA, an anti-statist country. The Right comes at it by defunding government. The Left does it by encumbering it with so many rules and requirements that it has a similar dysfunctional effect.”

The movement worldwide toward liberalism has improved more people’s lives than any previous system. Zakaria believes the success of liberalism is not due to the expectation that the world will one day be perfect. Instead, liberalism is underpinned by idealism. Liberalism is simple and practical. If people cooperate, they will achieve better outcomes and more durable solutions than if they act alone. If nations avoid war, their citizens will live longer, more prosperous, and more secure lives. If they become economically intertwined, they can elevate the quality of life for all their citizens.

Lesson 10 - Liberalism is Idealist

Although the connectedness of many countries allowed the pandemic to spread, it also brought advantages. The connectivity and ability to problem-solve at a global level had a huge impact. Our ability to distribute test kits, share medical knowledge, and develop solutions together saved countless lives. We need to build these collaborative techniques further and lean away from isolation and nationalism to combat future global threats.

This book foresees the nature of a post-pandemic world. It considers the upcoming political, social, technological, and economic consequences

New York Times Bestseller COVID-19 is speeding up history, but how? What is the shape of the world to come? Lenin once said, "There are decades when nothing happens and weeks when decades happen." This is one of those times when history has sped up. CNN host and best-selling author Fareed Zakaria helps readers to understand the nature of a post-pandemic world: the political, social, technological, and economic consequences that may take years to unfold. Written in the form of ten "lessons," covering topics from natural and biological risks to the rise of "digital life" to an emerging bipolar world order, Zakaria helps readers to begin thinking beyond the immediate effects of COVID-19. Ten Lessons for a Post-Pandemic World speaks to past, present, and future, and, while urgent and timely, is sure to become an enduring reflection on life in the early twenty-first century.

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Books

New York Times Bestseller COVID-19 is speeding up history, but how? What is the shape of the world to come? Lenin once said, "There are decades when nothing happens and weeks when decades happen." This is one of those times when history has sped up. CNN host and best-selling author Fareed Zakaria helps readers to understand the nature of a post-pandemic world: the political, social, technological, and economic consequences that may take years to unfold. Written in the form of ten "lessons," covering topics from natural and biological risks to the rise of "digital life" to an emerging bipolar world order, Zakaria helps readers to begin thinking beyond the immediate effects of COVID-19. Ten Lessons for a Post-Pandemic World speaks to past, present, and future, and, while urgent and timely, is sure to become an enduring reflection on life in the early twenty-first century.

Fareed Zakaria is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Fareed Zakaria has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Fareed Zakaria's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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Ten Lessons for a Post-Pandemic World

Peer coaching involves colleagues with the same level of experience and position to commit to helping each other by sharing insights, feedback, and best practices. Peer coaching can play an important role in building a resilient, high-performing organization while allowing remote workers to connect and engage with one another from afar.

Peer coaching

Peer coaching shares some practices with mentoring programs that pair experienced employees with junior ones for professional development. <ul><li>However, mentoring is a one-way relationship between people on different hierarchical levels.</li><li>Peer coaching is two-way, with participants on the same level and equally giving and receiving to help each other grow.</li></ul>

Peer coaching is similar to mentoring

Peer coaching can consist of pairs, triads, or small groups of participants that meet in person or remotely. Sessions start with goal-setting and end with action planning. These sessions can address organisational issues, specific skill development priorities, and more. Key questions:<ol><li>What do we want to accomplish during this session?</li><li>What have we learned from this session?</li><li>What next steps will we take?</li></ol>

How peer coaching works

<ul><li>Participants gain an outside perspective of their own performance and receive accountability.</li><li>The cross-functional relationships that are formed create a support network that participants can rely on to help them solve problems.</li><li>Peer coaching helps develop skills that lead to greater efficiency and productivity.</li><li>Peer coaches learn to collaborate and communicate effectively.</li><li>Participants learn to give and receive feedback in a constructive way.</li><li>They build confidence and leadership skills, such as empathy and social awareness.</li></ul>

The benefits of peer coaching for individuals and organizations

In some organisations, peer coaching is an inherent aspect of a team’s culture and happens organically. Other organisations implement a more formal structure, with defined requirements for serving as a peer coach and sessions held on a regular schedule. Ideally, peer coaching becomes ingrained in organisational culture with or without a formal program.

Ways to implement peer coaching

Accepting feedback gracefully and changing behaviours accordingly do not come naturally to most people. It may be because feedback hasn't been presented in an effective way. Peer coaching is entirely dependent on the free exchange of actionable feedback. It can only work if all parties feel safe and have each other's best interest at heart.

The importance of learning how to give and receive feedback 

<ul><li>Leaders will emerge if they are given the right environment. Peer to peer coaching can help to create that environment.</li><li>Create a process to identify peer coaching participants.</li><li>Offer to onboard new participants.</li><li>Consider using a group facilitator in the beginning to help set expectations and ground rules.</li><li>Encourage participants to commit to a risk-free, nonjudgmental, and psychologically safe environment.</li><li>Create opportunities for peer coaching groups to share accomplishments with their primary teams.</li><li>Place an end date on each round of peer coaching.</li></ul>

Guidelines for a successful peer coaching program

Peer coaching can play a key role in building high-performing teams, while allowing remote workers to connect with one another from afar. 

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Business

The power of peer coaching (and how to do it well)

A form of manipulation that often occurs in abusive relationships. It is a covert type of <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/identify-and-cope-with-emotional-abuse-4156673">emotional abuse </a>where the abuser misleads the target, creating a false narrative. It causes the victims to distrust their own perceptions of the world.It primarily occurs in romantic relationships, but it's also common in friendships or among family members.

Gaslighting

The term comes from a 1938 play by Patrick Hamilton, known in America as "Angle Street".It's about a manipulative husband who tries to make his wife think she is losing her mind. One of the acts of his manipulation is dimming the flame on a gas lamp.

The Term "Gaslighting"?

People who gaslight others may have mental health disorders, such as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or borderline personality disorder (BPD). They use this type of emotional abuse to exert power over others in order to manipulate people.

Why People Gaslight?

<a href="http://www.imedpub.com/articles/the-cognitive-neuroscience-of-narcissism.php?aid=22149">Several researchers</a> determined that the opposite of narcissistic personality disorder is empathy.From this determination, I am giving a theory that the cause of self-gaslighting might come from being too empathy. The ability to sympathize with people and their perspectives make them easily understand and forgive people's actions. This makes them think that there's nothing wrong with the other person so they start to think themselves as the problem.

Self-Gaslighting

These are some discoveries that have aided me in comprehending it and attempting to overcome it.

Gaslighting is a covert form of emotional abuse that makes people think they are losing their sanity. Learn about the warning signs of gaslighting.

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Ways to Tell If Someone Is Gaslighting You

To answer a question, more questions must be asked.

Well, the simple answer is most of us feel stuck in the past and can’t get over it and keep dwelling upon it which worsens the condition as if the Past happens to us and we can’t do anything but think more of it.

Why should we even bother about the Past?

Past is not some random place but the memory of some events.If you get a bit deeper into the concepts like Quantum Physics, Time Traveling, and even spirituality you’ll get to know that time and space have a memory. It’s been said that every human has a certain level of energy with a different form of aura, so if I sit on a chair and get away after some time that chair will store a buffer of memory that temporarily filled with my energy prints until unless some other energy source doesn’t alter my energy in that particular memory.

What Is Past?

Past is not about the event itself which causes the suffering but the Effect and the Meaning we derive from that event.

It’s not what happens to us but how we respond to the situation that matters.

Every time you go back to your past you change it. The past is just the raw material to work with. It’s entirely malleable and flexible. You get to take the pieces and choose which ones to discard and how you are going to frame them.

You Can Change Your Past!

As the neuroscientist, Dr. Donna Bridge said, “A memory is not simply an image produced by time-traveling back to the original event — it can be an image that is somewhat distorted because of the prior times you remembered it… Your memory of an event can grow the less precise event to the point of being totally false with each retrieval.”

Yes! You Can Change Your Past!

In physics, there’s a concept known as the observer effect, which shows that the mere observation of a phenomenon inevitably changes the phenomenon.So every time you look at your past it will change because it is just a memory.

Change Your Memory!

“Regardless of what happened to you in the past, no matter how unique, terrible (or wonderful) it was, you have the same ability to shape who you were and who you will become.”Quite literally, you are the Designer of your Past. So create your story which upgrades your present based on your future identity not on the past.

This is the best method I used for getting out of traumatic memory.

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Time Management

Past Is Nothing But A Fiction

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