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6 Mental Habits of People Who Manage Their Emotions Remarkably Well

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6 Mental Habits of People Who Manage Their Emotions Remarkably Well
Anger is one powerful human emotion. It is also a very normal human emotion that needs to be expressed in a healthy way. But there's a place and time for appropriate anger, and we all have to learn how to manage it before it escalates.

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Chuck Swindoll

"The longer I live, the more convinced I become that life is 10 percent what happens to us and 90 percent how we respond to it."

Chuck Swindoll

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Mental Habits to Mange Anger

  • Put boundaries on people who make you angry. 
  • Get to the bottom of why you're really angry.
  • Respond, don't react. Assess the situation and think about it rationally to arrive at sane conclusions and decisions.
  • Take a six-second pause during a heated exchange to quickly assess the costs and benefits of that action.
  • Be the first to reach out after an argument. Swallow your pride and make up with the person.
  • Shift to the positive. Think of the things you are thankful for. Understand why the person made an action that made you angry.

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Anger is one powerful human emotion

It is also a very normal human emotion that needs to be expressed in a healthy way.  That takes emotional intelligence.

When anger comes knocking, and it will, we have to know how to deal with it appropriately. If mismanaged, it can take down company morale and sabotage your ability to lead and collaborate well.

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Anger and Aggression

  • Anger: An emotion felt when we believe we have been wronged.
  • Aggression: is an act of expression of the anger, by our words our actions. Aggressio...

Validation and Boundaries

  • We can try and validate the anger felt by an individual by making them know that their anger is maybe justified while putting firm but respectful boundaries on their aggression.
  • We then need to be clear about what type of aggression we are willing to tolerate, setting boundaries on the unacceptable.
  • We may have to put our foot down and be ready to leave the conversation or escalate the issue, without falling into the trap of guilt and emotion.
  • If possible, we need to restart the conversation when things have cooled down, and diffuse the issue in a calm way.

Avoiding Speculative Self-Talk

Unchecked self-talk can easily turn into self-delusion. The stories we create almost always make you look like the good guy and cannot be termed as objective.

  • The way to get out of this speculative self-delusion is to avoid any speculation about other people's anger, at least initially.
  • Make sure to note down the facts of the situation. This can make the story less according to your gut instinct, and more towards the objective reality.

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There are no bad emotions

Emotions are not “bad” or “good” but simply “comfortable” or “uncomfortable.” And even uncomfortable emotions (like sadness, anger etc) help us point issues we ignored about ourselves.

Stigmatizing "bad" feelings

By stigmatizing uncomfortable feelings, we tend to eliminate the visibility of these emotions in society and people who feel sad or depressed believe they are the only ones who feel this way because they don’t see examples of others living with the same emotions around them.

Understanding the source of the emotion puts you in a position to problem-solve it, which means you are back in control and can resolve the emotion.
Understanding the source of the emotion puts you in a position to problem-solve it, which means you are back in control and can resolve the emotion.

Quick Tips For Anger Management

Eat well: Make sure you eat healthy vegetarian food.

Rest: Ensure at least 6-8 hours a day.

Meditate daily: can be done at any time, in a quiet place and doing so i...

7 Techniques To Manage Anger

  1. Sudarshan Kriya: a breathing technique that releases stresses accumulated as impressions.
  2. Sahaj Samadhi Meditation: through mantras, it helps the meditator to clear the layers of consciousness from the impressions stored in it, bringing better perception and calmness.
  3. Be aware of the emotion rising: it helps you to control it but regular meditation is required to sustain it.
  4. Accept anger: just accepting yourself for getting angry calms you down.
  5. Show anger, don’t get angry: showing and being angry are different. The former is an appearance and can be done without affecting your inner calm.
  6. Smile more often: you cannot get angry when you’re busy smiling.
  7. Recognizing anger's transiency: you get angry at something in the present. With proper training, you will be angry less frequently or for less time and prevent anger from becoming hatred.