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The Four Stages of Life
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Life happens in 4 stages
- Mimicry: As children, the way we’re wired to learn is by watching and mimicking others.
- Self-Discovery:Learning what makes us different from the people and culture around us, with a lot of trial-and-error and experimentation.
- Commitment: The great consolidation of one’s life. This stage is all about maximizing your own potential in this life.
- Legacy: Important psychologically, because it makes the ever-growing reality of one’s own mortality more bearable.
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The value of trauma
Transitions between life stages are usually triggered by extreme events: near-death experiences, divorce, failed friendships, death of loved ones.
Trauma causes us to step back and re-evaluate our deepest motivations and decisions. It allows us to reflect on whether our strategies to pursue happiness are actually working well or not.
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- Outsource Burners: you can keep the burner running without spending your time on it.
- Embrace Constraints and try to be effective within those limits. Well des...
The Four Burners Theory
Imagine that your life is represented by a stove with four burners on it: family, friends, health, your work.
The Four Burners Theory says that “in order to be successful you have to cut off one of your burners. And in order to be really successful you have to cut off two.”
Life is made a tradeoffs
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Don't flow with the mainstream
Moving away from analogy = Removing iterative steps based on other or older experiences and biases and prejudices
Keeping Yourself Motivated
Determination. Do something that you have willingly chosen to do. Have a sense of autonomy and self-empowerment.
Bring on companions. Shared memories and experiences are far stronger motivating factors.
Be impatient. achieve your goals as quickly as you can.
Stay curious. Do not just dream, but see the benefits for yourself.
Avoidance. Make the most out of your time and win the final pay off.
Applying the First Principles Thinking
Identify the Problem
What is something that I want to change in my life?
Deconstruct the Problem
What are the causes of my problems? How does it affect my life?
Solve the Problem
Start creating your new framework. You could think of multiple ways to achieve your goals easily.
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Structure in times of chaos
Human suffering is often about freedom and constraint. We rebel against too much containment (“I need space!”) or if we have too much freedom, we feel lost in space. Fearful. (“Where did you go?...
Move
Our bodies need to stretch, reach, twist, bend, step, and sweat. It's not about staying in shape. It's about your immune health and mental health.
Build movement in your structure. Try for at least 20 minutes per day.
Nourish
You don't have to ban small treats. However, it is essential to set up a daily structure that fills you with nourishing healthy foods.
Make a dietary change, learn to meal prep, or teach your kids to cook.