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A new paper by a team of researchers from Duke University, University of Georgia, and University of Colorado looks at not only how extremely competent people are treated by their co-workers and peers, but how those people feel when, at crucial moments, everyone turns to them.
They find that responsible employees are not terribly pleased about this dynamic either.
A separate experiment found that not only go-getters get more tasks assigned,—but how much work it would take to get the job done always gets underestimated.
What looks easy from the outside may not feel that easy on the inside.
People ask high self-control people to do more for perfectly logical reasons—because they think that those who successfully demonstrate high (vs. low) self-control will perform better and accomplish more.
So it is a reasonable thing to do, from the perspective of the partner, the manager, the coworker.
The results from a survey of more than 400 employees show that high performers were not only aware that they were giving more at work—they rightly assumed that their managers and co-workers didn’t understand how hard it was for them, and thus felt unhappy about being given more tasks.
Further, in a survey that was completed by more than 100 couples, partners who had greater self-control said they also felt burden and fatigue from being relied on more at home.
In our personal relationships, we should recognize that just because our high-ability partners can do something for us, doesn’t mean that we should let them.
And if they do help us, we should recognize it and thank them for it. Otherwise, they too may end up feeling burdened by us, and less satisfied—and that should be the last thing we want to do to a good employee or a good partner.
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