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Your Goals Are Overrated

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Your Goals Are Overrated
It's the new year and let's pretend for a moment that you have decided that you want to become rich. Maybe you're sick of your student loan debt. Maybe you're sick of eating frozen waffles for dinner every night.

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2 mindsets of building wealth

2 mindsets of building wealth
  • Spending mindset: People who stay poor or middle class see money as something to be spent.
  • Investing mindset: People who become rich see money as something to be invested.

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People rely too much on self-discipline

People rely too much on self-discipline

 ....and eschew forming useful habits. Instead, they set unrealistic drastic goals that and then become frustrated when they make little to no progress towards them. 

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Goals sound much sexier in our head than habits

  • Goals: there’s a clear image of a certain result in our head and that gets us more excited in the moment;
  • Habits: are long-term and repetitive - they seem boring. And there’s no clear image one can imagine for “going to the gym every morning for a year”.

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Goals mindset vs. Habits mindset

  • Goals are a one-time bargain. They are the spending mindset. 
  • Habits are an investing mindset. Habits require one to invest one’s efforts for a little while and then take the rewards of that effort and re-invest them in a greater effort to form even better habits.

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Keystone habits

Keystone habits

Some habits make other positive habits much easier to acquire as well. ad once adopted, will reverberate into other areas of your life. These are sometimes referred to as “keystone habits.” 

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6 Fundamental Daily Habits

6 Fundamental Daily Habits

1. Exercise: benefits for mental and physical health.

2. Cooking: benefits in controlling what and when you eat.

3. Meditation: increased focus, improved self-awareness, better mental health.

4.Reading: benefits in interpersonal relationships.

5. Writing: writing well is one of the most important life skills in the 21st century.

6. Socializing: being alone can be just as bad for your physical health as obesity or heavy smoking.

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Identity-based habits

The beliefs you have about yourself can drive your long-term behavior.

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3 layers of behavior change

  • A change in your outcomes
  • A change in your processes
  • A change in your identity.

Most people start by focusing on outcome-based goals like “I want to lose 20 pounds”. But these are surface-level changes.

The root of behavior change

... and building better habits is your identity.

Each action you perform is driven by the belief that it is possible. So if you change your identity (the type of person that you believe that you are), then it’s easier to change your actions.

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Force yourself to do things

Our mind has muscles. It memorizes patterns. By doing this over and over, you're building your willpower and self-discipline. 

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Focus on the emotional reward

Focus on the feeling you feel after doing something that you know is good for you.

  • The adrenaline rush.
  • The feeling of being fit and healthy.
  • The relief you feel after having finished a big project.
  • The pride you gain from an accomplishment.
  • The confidence you feel after having faced your fear.

How To Choose Good Habits

  • Envision your ideal end result. What are you going to achieve?
  • Write it down. It will serve as a powerful motivation, especially if you include why you want it.

Good Habits For Health and Fitness

  • Regular Aerobic Exercise: Great for both your physical and mental health. Increases the production of dopamine and boosts creativity.
  • Preparing Your Own Meals. It’ll take some getting used to, but it’s a habit that’ll boost your health, wealth and productivity. 

Good Habits For Finance and Wealth

  • Create a Household Budget: the best habit to help you save money. A household budget helps to encourage frugality and discourage impulse spending. You’ll feel more motivated to engage in other good financial habits once you’ve got this in place.
  • Financial Audits. This involves frequent checks as to whether you’re spending your money as wisely as possible.