Now that you’ve got the person opening up, you should be feeling a bit more confident.

At this point, you probably are thinking of some questions to ask them. Problem? Endless questions are SO 1900’s.

Instead of saying, “what do you do for work?” Say: “I think you’re a doctor.”

The recipient will go: “What?!? Why’s that.” Or, your guess will be right, and you’ll blow everyone’s minds!

Then you answer by giving a legitimate reason to back up your statement. For example, “you speak in a very formal & articulate manner which reminds me of my doctor.”

This trick opens up an exciting discussion where you both are operating on a deeper level instead of boring, surface-level “What do you do” type questions.

Note: the statement should be at least slightly accurate, and not come off as “judgy.” It should be more fun, and always be a compliment…

Put on a smile because you’re about to spread some good energy. Everyone LOVES praise, so why not give it out, especially when it’s well-deserved?

If someone is cute- tell them. If someone is hilarious- confess it. You’re hurting no one.

As I hinted at you can combine the previous trick with this one. Example:

“Wow, you’re really smart. You must be a doctor or something!” (say with a smile)

The person will blush from happiness, and your guess will either be right and they’ll go “OMG you’re awesome” OR they’ll go, “thank you, I’m actually a [job].”

Then you can use the first tip and go, “oh you’re a [job]” and they’ll start elaborating about the deeper reasons they chose that profession. 📷(:

Now, get out there! This works with everyone- coworkers, family, friends, elevator talks. Go try it!

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