Anabella Garcia's Key Ideas from The Defining Decade
by Meg Jay

We often surround ourselves with people who are like us.

this means that many times we’re not learning as much as we could be.

Weak ties are people that are only your acquaintances, and maybe you don’t really know them or hang out with them.

“weak ties promote, and sometimes even force, thoughtful growth and change.”

weak ties will often have a network that you don’t have access to.

By connecting with a weak tie you now have access to the weak ties network.

Our connections narrow are we grow older and busier. Take advantage of those ties now.

Many people in their 20s think they have their whole life ahead of them. They think I’ll worry about family when I’m 30.

this type of thinking is problematic. Our bodies are not designed to wait too long to have children. As age increases so does the challenges of having kids.

when you start searching for a partner in your 20s you’re able to make better decisions about who your partner is without risking the ability to have children.

when you wait too long its easy to settle for anyone because you’re running out of time to form a family.

“other things may change us be we start and end with family”