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Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?

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Feeling Down:

  • It's normal to feel down sometimes but doing little things will make you feel better.
  • Getting exercise, eating healthy, sleeping enough, and hanging with friends all give your mood a boost.
  • Thinking everything is awful when you're sad just drags you down further. Try to keep things in perspective.
  • Let painful emotions flow through you and naming them helps you process them.

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Finding Motivation

  • Lack of motivation is not laziness, it's your brain conserving energy when your mood is low.
  • Start with small, simple goals and build momentum from there.
  • Connect tasks to things you care about, that internal drive is stronger than pressure.
  • Build routines and habits to reduce the effort needed for daily tasks.
  • Be kind to yourself. Beating yourself up drains motivation more.

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Dealing with Tough Feelings

  • Painful emotions are not toxic or dangerous, they are human nature.
  • Allow yourself to feel, don't fight it. Those emotions gotta flow through.
  • Do self-soothing stuff like deep breathing, baths, walks to cope when emotions get intense.
  • Name those feelings and remember they'll pass.
  • Reach out to loved ones when you’re hurting. Human connection helps a lot.

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On Grief

  • The “stages” aren't neat steps, just common experiences people often have when grieving.
  • Be patient with yourself. Healing takes time.
  • Let it out - cry, talk about them, do activities to help process the grief.
  • Cherish happy memories, let go of blame or anger.
  • Rebuild slowly - care for yourself, create new routines.

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Battling Self-Doubt

  • We blow criticism way out of proportion in our heads. Think about how you'd advise a friend instead.
  • Mistakes don't define your worth. They're opportunities to improve.
  • Build confidence with small steps outside your comfort zone.
  • Develop self-acceptance - you're human, imperfect, and worthy of love as you are.
  • Surround yourself with people who appreciate the real you.

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Coping with Fear

  • Accept fear as a normal human response, don't fight it.
  • Name specific fears and break big anxiety into smaller, manageable pieces.
  • Reframe fear as excitement - it helps you perform better.
  • Avoiding fears only strengthens them - face them gradually to build confidence.
  • Focusing on making life meaningful helps reduce fear of de*th.

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Handling Stress

  • Stress gives you energy to tackle challenges but constant stress hurts your health.
  • Relax and recover after stress vs trying to eliminate it.
  • Manage stress with breathing, meditation, connecting with others.
  • Reframe stress as helpful fuel, set meaningful goals to stay motivated despite stress.
  • Mentally prepare for pressure situations - stress sharpens your game.

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Creating Meaning

  • Just being happy isn't enough for a fulfilling life, we need meaning and purpose too.
  • Figure out your values then make choices and goals based on living them.
  • Focus on becoming who you wanna be, not just hitting goals.
  • Build close relationships and connect with others - isolation kills meaning.
  • Regularly reflect on what matters so you can adjust course if life pulls you off track.

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