Sam Alijev's Key Ideas from AARP Healing Your Emotional Self
by Beverly Engel

You should surely strive to handle the issue, however, not doing anything or acting too much will be egregious. The book offers to get rid of the anger by writing a letter( or anything else like that ), but not sending it. You can have a spurious conversation alone or speak about that with a friend for an hour.

Find a voice, that's emollient and relieving for you, mother's voice and then seek for father's voice, motivational one, the one that protects, imagine the samurai with a sword, who defends his wife. Your mother should be the voice that leads you to ideas, listen to that and do what it desires. His wife is a decision maker.

As your parents love you, you start loving yourself, as parents abhor you, you commence hating yourself. Break the window that is not what you truly need and make your own

The book advises you to find a therapist or someone else, who you could speak with candor and honesty.

1 Caretaker's power

2 Accepting, however not ignoring ( splash your anger )

3 Become your own parent (-s)

4 Mirrors

5 Find a Special person