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Traumatized and Angry: Why am I having a surge of emotions?

Traumatized and Angry: Why am I having a surge of emotions?
Are you experiencing increased emotions of anger, anxiety, and fear? Learn why and what you can do about it.


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Anger And The Trauma String

Anger And The Trauma String

Any event that triggers our anger can be only seen by us completely, as it lights up various ‘bulb’s inside our minds, triggering many sleeping emotions, which are invisible to others and that makes them feel we are overreacting to the event.

They are oblivious of the inner fireworks that went off with the spark, and the string which pulled your past traumatic experiences.




Vicarious Trauma

It happens when other people's bad experience is reimagined by you, sparking memories of your own similar experience, triggering strong reactions.

Deeply buried events that were supposedly forgotten are resurfaced, leading to traumatic feelings that can be hard to understand by others, like grief, frustration, helplessness and agitation.



Anger Is Good

Anger, surprisingly, can be constructive, an active ingredient to energize and motivate a person. It can be useful and powerful if channelled in the right way. The adrenalin that flows during a fit of anger can blind a person if not handled appropriately.

If left unchecked, anger can lead to nightmares, chronic anxiety, and panic attacks.



Breathe To Regulate Emotions

To regulate your emotions, our breath is the best place to start.

Taking a few deep breaths grounds you and makes you calm and relaxed. Deep breathing helps us to metabolize our stress hormones, regulate our emotions and release tension.



Ways To Treat Anger

Apart from deep breathing, Aromatherapy helps calm the nervous system, as it treats the olfactory nerve which passes through the brain’s limbic system, the part where we process our memories and emotions. The use of Eucalyptus oils adds to its effectiveness.

Crying helps release toxins, as does exercising which releases sweat.



Support Communities

The feeling of community, to share stories, and feel validated is a great way to release stress and anger.

Breaking the silence and the isolation, the traumatized person gains new perspective, support and even new friends. Any group that is joined, a music group, virtual chat room, or a religious/spiritual group provides a healthy outlet.



Paint Your Blues

An outlet that works wonders is expressing your inner anger and trauma by drawing, painting, singing or just talking with your friends and well-wishers.

Colours on a blank canvas are cathartic. Expressing yourself in a neutral setting provides a healthy space to let out your inner negative energies.



Pick A Hobby

Focusing on a particular activity or project is a way to quell and heal your inner dragon.

Whether it’s a house project, fixing cars or gardening, a positive contribution that adds value can be very empowering. Simple gestures of giving, kindness and gratitude also help.




Simple 20 Minutes Meditation

Simple 20 Minutes Meditation
  • Sit comfortably.
  • Close your eyes or stare at the ground a few feet away from you.
  • Rest your hands on your thighs.
  • Focus your attention on the area a few fingers below y...

The Benefits Of Meditation

Repeated, consistent practice of meditation enhances our ability to cope and sit with negative emotions like anger without reacting.

The Physical Benefits Of Meditation

Studies suggest that, regardless of the practitioner’s experience, meditation can help reduce the body's response to anger, reducing the toll frequent anger takes on you.

Anger and frustration cause us to be stressed, activate our sympathetic nervous system, and produce shallower, faster breathing, a rapid heart rate, and raises blood pressure.

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Anger is caused by impulsive judgment

Anger is caused by impulsive judgment

Getting angry is about facing some form of perceived threat. It also involves a knee-jerk reaction to negative feelings such as shame, guilt, anxiety, powerlessness, reject...

The “It’s happening again!” trigger for anger

Thinking, "I'm getting angry again" is a strong trigger for overly intense anger.

When this happens, the negative feelings that we associate with this thought make our emotional reactions worse. Common feelings include shame, guilt, feelings of inadequacy. If we know we have not made peace with our past hurts, we are more likely to experience this emotional reaction.

Changing destructive anger into healthy anger

This process requires us to pause and reflect on our internal experiences.

  • A meaningful component is to identify the negative feelings behind it and the conclusions we make. We should realize that our reaction in the moment may not only be about the current event but also about previous hurts.
  • Meeting this challenge requires attention beyond only controlling anger. It takes self-observation about the moments when anger arise. This way, we can immediately recognize that our reaction to a situation incorporates reactions coming from previous hurts.

Anticipatory grief

Anticipatory grief

Conventional grief, the kind of grief that occurs after the loss of a loved one, or even loss of one’s dreams, is commonly discussed and understood.

Anticipatory grief is a lesser-known...

A Cauldron Of Emotions

Grief involves anger and loss of emotional control, often a state of confusion.

Anticipatory grief, for those who experience it, is sometimes even more severe and stressful. It does not lessen the burden of actual grief after the loss has been experienced, and is not a substitute for it..

Purpose of Anticipatory Grief

Anticipatory grief is a chance of closure and personal growth which comes at the end of life. It is a chance to reconcile differences and heal the heart with forgiveness.