How To Be More Likeable - (ft. Robert Greene)

While other people are talking, we often focus on what we want to tell them rather than what they’re saying. This is because we tend to find ourselves more interesting than what other people have to say.

To overcome this and improve your social skills, you need to flip that mentality around and start thinking that the other people are actually fascinating.

To start finding others more interesting, tell yourself that you don’t really know them and try to find out something new about them that you never understood or saw before.

Start paying more attention to their non-verbal communication, be attuned to their emotional cues, and get them to talk about their childhood and passions.

Imagine there is a person watching a movie. This person is usually you and watching your own movie.

When you’re interacting with others, you are essentially being invited into their movie theater to watch their movie.

However, most people often pull out their phones and secretly watch their own movie at the same time. We assume the other person won’t notice, but they do.

The key to becoming a better listener is to learn to put down that phone and become fully immersed in what you’re there to see, as if you’re watching a jaw-dropping, award-winning movie in an actual theater.

• You will have less drama.
• You will have less arguments.
• You will have less conflicts.
• You will find yourself naturally asking the right questions.
• You will be genuinely curious about others.
• You will stand out and be more appreciated.
• You will be memorable.
• People will want to interact with you more often.