Miri Swift's Key Ideas from Finde deinen Fixstern
by Vera F. Birkenbihl

• L - Life. Without cooperation, there is no life.
• I - Interaction. Love needs two interacting parties: the loving and the loved.
• E - Entwinement. Hate divides, love unites. When we connect with others, it is through some form of love: romance, friendship, respect, empathy.
• B - Bond. Love creates bonds with others.
• E - Energy. Love is the strongest force in the universe. When we hate, we blockade ourselves and others; energy cannot flow.

Quickly finish the following sentences:

1. Life would be better if ...
2. Self-esteem mostly depends on ...
3. I would have less problems if ...
4. "But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also." What do you think about this?
5. Love is ...
6. I find inner peace ...

Quickly answer the following questions:

1. What do you dislike about yourself?
2. What do others dislike/criticize about you?
3. What do you dislike in others?
4. What do others like about you?
5. What do you like in others?
6. What do you like about yourself?
7. What do you want? What is your life goal? Why?

• Negative affirmations tend to manifest.
• Notice your own programs and come back into the Here and Now.
• Look for your inner programs by reflecting and watching your reactions for 6 weeks: What do you find wrong, mean, impossible, etc.? Write it down.
• Anti-Joy Program: You may laugh in public only if you are at least 2 people and everyone knows what you are laughing about.
• Our upbringing "enchants" us.
• Only the little EGO would wish bad upon others. The soul would never have any such notions. Thus, the motives are small-minded, e.g. envy, vindictiveness, vengence, greed.

• Each society has their own programs on how to behave. We learn these programs in childhood.
• As long as we are "enchanted", we are bound to play a role according to our learned programs. As long as we are scared to discard these rules, we will never be our true self.
• Playing our role, we will always be the victim of our learned programs. Trying to do what everyone else expects of us, we will never be satisfied, judging others that have stopped playing by the rules.
• We can decide not to follow our learned programs.
• We can accept that others also have the choice to not follow their learned programs.

• We are life. Life is ever evolving. We grow and change with our experiences. Today we cannot be who we were yesterday!
• If you could wish for anything, what would it be?
• How long do you want to be an object player?
• Positive affirmation: I am perfect!
• We are standardized by our upbringing and thus cannot live out our potential.
• Stand by what you want!
• Every learned program limits us and hinders our energy to flow freely.
• Contemplative meditation: Choose one thought and contemplate it from all sides while sitting or walking in a meditative state.
• Gift yourself 15 minutes for daily meditation.
• Be thankful.

If you put positivity into the system, positivity will come back.

If you put negativity into the system, negativity will come back.

Everyone that crosses your path is either a friend or a teacher.

Just as others are our mirror, we are the mirror for others.

What we believe comes true. => Placebo, Nocebo

If you don't love yourself, this notion will reflect to the outside and others will not love you either. It's the resonance you are susceptible for.

The path to our higher self can only be found if we quiet the small ego.

The fixed star - our life goal - nourishes the soul.

• If you want to change the world, you have to change your reactions.
• The opposite of love is fear.
• You have to remove the light to create darkness.
• Gratitude radiates energy.
• By having a higher fixed star you can create more depth in your life.
• Freedom can be found where you currently are, here in the day to day life. Live in the here and now.
• You can always talk to others, no matter what happened. You just have to use the right words.
• The universe is full of riches.
• Stress hormones poison the environment.

• The more you live in harmony with your true self, the more things will fall into place that you cannot force to happen. Unexpected chances will open up, advantageous opportunities will be revealed, you will meet the right people at the right time. => Resonance
• Don't fight your fears, but accept them. Admit them openly. No guilt, no embarrassment.
• Be more altruistic for your own benefit. => Resonance
• Household with your energy.
• Take time to contemplate and reflect.
• Concentrate on the 98,9% of your life that are good, not the 1,1% that are suboptimal.

• Only two things count: Love in the sense of unconditional love and knowledge in the sense of holistic knowledge about the greater connections.
• When we practice the "far view", we can reach a state of mind where we suddenly understand everything about certain things all at once.
• Use love and knowledge as your fixed star to align your smaller goals to.
• Acceptance instead of resistance: Accept and love your imperfections as long as your inner self is not ready to change. Your imperfections are not the problem, but your own resistance.

Spend three minutes to write a letter to yourself.

What would you like to do? What would you like to change? What would you like to occupy yourself with? What would you like to give attention to?

Put the letter in an envelope and open it in four weeks time.

What have you done with all those thoughts and wishes in the past four weeks?

• Negative formulations are own goals.
• Object players are stuck on matter. Their development as human being and their relationships to others are thus limited.
• Object goals should be aligned with your fixed star. Like this your actions are based on your inner self. Then you have a strong foundation that is still large and flexible.
• When you align your life to the higher things, everything else will follow on its own, because we enter certain energy flows and by resonance we achieve what we want.
• A road full of potholes takes more time to travel. Fix the potholes before you travel.

1. Clearly visualize the goal.
2. The goal has to be as concrete as possible.
3. Use positive formulations for your goal.

• When your goals are in harmony with your fixed star, it is easier to overcome problems because of your inner attitude.
• What surrounds you shapes you.
• The moment you let go things will come to you. The holistic view helps us to gain this mental state. Then signs and wonders will happen.
• Practice gratitude daily!
• Open yourself for positive energies.
• When we give our true self room to be, we will be well.
• Stop watching the news. Important information will reach you either way.

• Most of our problems relate to our subjective reality.
• Everytime you have a problem where you can't change the outside world, all you can change is your inner attitude. If you can do that, the problem is solved.
• Love yourself!
• No matter how, if you come to terms with yourself, the so called problem that keeps coming up will transform.
• True love creates happiness.
• When we feel good spiritually, the small ego will feel good also.

• Unconditional love is not hormonal. The connection between brain and heart will lead to unconditional love. It is an act of the spirit. Inner peace begins inside us. Focusing on your fixed star can help with this process.
• I can only rise above myself when I accept where I stand today. The more I accept my imperfections, the weaker they will become.
• When you look inward you will gain more understanding about the outward.

• Tranquility comes from the inside when you practice mindfulness.
• Devote yourself to the here and now through relaxed contemplation.
• Instead of resisting or fighting or trying to get rid of baser thoughts, we should pair them with higher thoughts.
• Practice compassion instead of pity!
• The faster we understand what a certain situation has to teach us, the faster we can leave it in the past.
• When we think about others, they will receive our energies.
• Love heals!
• Everything is one. Matter is just an illusion.
• Smiling (Lächeltraining) will strengthen your immune system.

• When it is hard for us to forgive someone, we need to imagine it was the last day of their life.
• Law of Resonance: Who learns to regularly radiate as much positive energy as possible will soon receive similar energy.
• We always receive the world's echo to our vibrations. The more we are in harmony with our true self, the more positive happenstances will naturally occur.
• Lifting the corners of your mouth will produce endorphins.
• Make peace of mind a life goal!