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How to Move Past the Superficial and Build Deeper Friendships

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How to Move Past the Superficial and Build Deeper Friendships
Having supportive, honest people in your life can make a huge difference in your overall happiness (and theirs). But fostering friendships that go beyond the surface can be a challenge-they take a lot of time and energy, and it can feel awkward at first.

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Build deeper friendships

  • Evaluate your relationships and find out which friendships need a deeper connection.
  • Make plans that encourage conversation like going to an art exhibit, taking a class, or cooking together.
  • Don't shy away from difficult emotional subjects.
  • Create time to be supportive of them. Deeper relationships take more time and effort to maintain.

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