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Boundaries.

According to the APA Dictionary Of Psychology,"it is a psychological demarcation that protects the integrity of an individual or group or that helps the person or group set realistic limits on participation in a relationship or activity".

In essence, it is the mental restrictions (which may or may not be visible) on our emotional, mental and physical actions in order to maintain personal identity, mental health, and physical well-being. So, boundaries are essential to thrive exceptionally and assertively.

So, what happens when one is WITHOUT BOUNDARIES?

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- Without boundaries, you will be emotionally abused because your mind will be easily accessible to preys, who will manipulate and gaslight you.

- Without boundaries, you will displease yourself — your time, energy, to simply please others, even to the point of exhaustion.

- Without boundaries, you will be taken advantage of. "I am a nice person," you will think, "What a foolish person," they will think and say.

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- Without boundaries, people will make life decisions for you. You will literally agree to anything, everything, at any time and every time. You will find it difficult to say “NO”, even when it’s against your values or moral.

- Without boundaries, you will be coerced into opening up important parts of you even when you don’t feel like doing so.

- Without boundaries, you will drown in the valley of low self-esteem.

- Without boundaries, you will spend the rest of your life seeking approval and validation from people who don’t care about you or even know you (Netizens).

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- Without boundaries, you will be filled with hate ,guilt, and shame — to coin it all up, resentment, because you will feel used. You will get frustrated and begin to hate yourself for being vulnerable, and you will eventually end up behaving passive aggressively.

- Without boundaries, you will suck up all trolls, negativity, and destructive criticism all at once. You may even end up reacting badly to them. By developing mental health related issues such as anxiety, depression, moodswings, etc.

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- Without boundaries, you will be a scary cat. You will lack assertiveness and will be unable to stand up for yourself because people will constantly violate your rights.

- Without boundaries, you will be extremely dependent on people because you allow them to tell you when and how to think, act, and feel.

- Without boundaries, you will fall quickly in love with people who give you the barest minimum, because that is what you are used to.

- Without boundaries, you will find it difficult to respect other people’s boundaries because you are yet to understand the concept.

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V.

- Without boundaries, you will end up being disrespected and the weakest one in the family, friendship, and relationship.

- Without boundaries, you will find yourself in toxic situations (even if it had a beautiful beginning) that will, in the end, affect your mental well-being.

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Nota Bein.

Boundaries aren’t just necessary in your personal relationships. You can as well incorporate them in your workplace- when the environment is toxic and you don't want to quit yet, in schools- in the presence of bullies, etc.

If you feel you will lose friendships or relationships for setting boundaries, then believe me, those people don’t care about your well-being. Because, boundaries are the foundation of healthy relationships, they foster respect and mutual understanding.

Set boundaries and COMMUNICATE it loudly because, if you don’t others will you do it for you and you know what it entails.

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OPRAH WINFREY.

“Setting boundaries is an act of self-love.”

OPRAH WINFREY.

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CURATOR'S NOTE

So a friend asked me, Chimfuu, "Why do you always emphasize setting boundaries?" and I replied, "I always emphasize the need to set boundaries because...."

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