It means paying attention to yourself, knowing what’s going on in your life. Self-awareness means understanding your personality. You also understand your values, your relationships, and your beliefs. Self-awareness includes understanding how you process your experiences.

What Self-Awareness Is

It involves three elements to get you where you want to go:<ul><li>Introspection: the process of attempting to directly access one’s own internal psychological processes, judgments, perceptions.</li><li>Self-reflection: the examination, contemplation, and analysis of one’s thoughts, feelings, and actions.</li><li>Insight: the clear discernment of a solution to a problem. It’s the result of self-reflection and introspection.</li></ul>

The Benefits of Self Awareness

<ul><li>Don’t obsess: More thinking about yourself won't automatically lead to deeper knowledge.</li><li>Don't ask the wrong questions: When we ask why questions, our brain points toward the most obvious answer. We usually land on the one that confirms our pre-existing beliefs.</li></ul>

Don’ts Of Introspection

<ul><li>You should aim for what questions. These will help you to name your emotions, which has been shown to reduce negative feelings and attitudes.</li><li>Ask questions that shift your focus to its possible solution. They will reveal potential answers to the problem and will also increase your confidence in solving future problems.</li></ul>

The Right Questions

<img src="https://nireyal-wpengine.netdna-ssl.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Young-Woman-Mirror-Introspection-2.jpg" alt="Here Are The 4 Simple Introspection Steps That Will Boost Self Awareness" width="588" height="294"><h2>The Benefits of Self Awareness and Introspection</h2>You want a life change that will last. A regular practice of self reflection and introspection can help you take the right actions today to achieve your goals in the future.The goal of self awareness is actionable insight you can use to change your life for the better. But how do you access those insights? Self awareness involves three elements to get you where you want to go:<UL><LI>Introspection is “the process of attempting to directly access one’s own internal psychological processes, judgments, perceptions, or states.”5</LI><LI>Self reflection involves the “examination, contemplation, and analysis of one’s thoughts, feelings, and actions.”6</LI><LI>Insight is “the clear and often sudden discernment of a solution to a problem.”7 It’s the result of self reflection and introspection.</LI></UL><div dir="ltr">
Introspection gives you access to understanding yourself, self reflection lets you process what you learn, and insights are the answers you come up with and that you can act upon.
</div>In addition to leading to insights for what to do, self awareness also makes it more likely you’ll do as you say. Self awareness increases your ability to exercise control over your emotions by reducing stress and anxiety<span title="Grant, Anthony M. (2017) “Solution-focused Cognitive-behavioral Coaching for Sustainable High Performance and Circumventing Stress, Fatigue, and Burnout.” Consulting Psychology Journal: Practice and Research 69:2, 98-111. DOI:10.1037/cpb0000086" dir="ltr">8and providing a greater sense of well being.9Through self awareness, you become less likely to veer off track when difficult emotions surface. Instead of doing something you later regret, you’ll be better equipped to ride out emotional troughs.<h2>An Introspection Method: Do’s and Don’ts</h2><h3>Don't Obsess</h3><div dir="ltr">
So you just need to think about yourself all the time, right? Nope. That won’t automatically lead to deeper knowledge.<span title="Stein, Daniel &amp; Grant, Anthony M. (2014) “Disentangling the Relationships Among Self-Reflection, Insight, and Subjective Well-Being: The Role of Dysfunctional Attitudes and Core Self-Evaluations,” The Journal of Psychology, 148:5, 505-522, DOI: 10.1080/00223980.2013.810128" dir="ltr">10 In fact, if you aren’t careful about how you reflect on your life, you might end up unhappier than when you began. Studies show people who spend more time in introspection “tend to have more anxiety, less positive social experiences, and more negative attitudes about themselves.”11 Why is that? They’re doing it wrong.</div><h3>Don't Ask the Wrong Questions</h3>When we engage in introspection, we too often start by asking why questions. It might be as simple as, “Why do I feel this way?” We search for the reasons underlying our discontent. On the surface, it makes sense, but it can lead to misery.That’s because when we ask why, our brain points toward the most obvious answer. We usually land on the one that confirms our pre-existing beliefs. That’s because most of our motives are beyond our conscious awareness. It takes more than ruminating to bring root causes to the surface. We tend to turn to answers that feel true in the moment. Unfortunately, these easy answers are frequently dead wrong.12For example, if you lose your temper at a coworker, you might think, “I just can’t work with her. She really rubs me the wrong way.” But the real reason you snapped might be that you’re anxious about an upcoming performance review.That’s why asking why questions is the wrong kind of self reflection. It can lead you to see relationships between two things that do not exist or to overestimate the degree to which two things are related to each other. This is a cognitive bias called illusory correlation.13Here’s another example: let’s say you submit a proposal at work. One of the members of the evaluation committee sat on the previous committee that judged one of your ideas, and he rejected it. All of a sudden, you are sure your current proposal will fail. Why? Because you believe that person had something to do with your recent defeat, even though you don’t have any evidence to back this up. This kind of thinking only serves to damage your perception of fairness at work.Why questions can cause you to obsess over your problems. They lead to greater anxiety and symptoms of depression.<span title="Watkins, Ed. (2004) “Adaptive and maladaptive ruminative self-focus during emotional processing.” Behaviour Research and Therapy 42:9, 1037-1052, DOI: https://doi.org/10.1016/j.brat.2004.01.009" dir="ltr">14<h3>Ask the Right Self Reflection Question</h3>Instead of asking why questions, you need to ask questions that will help you focus on solutions or goals. That’s why you should try asking what questions.<span title="Eurich, Tasha. Insight; Hixon, J. Gregory &amp; Swann, Jr., William B. (1993) “When Does Introspection Bear Fruit? Self-Reflection, Self-Insight, and Interpersonal Choices.” Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 64:1, 35-43. Retrieved from" dir="ltr">15 Ask questions like, “What am I feeling right now?” rather than, “Why do I feel so terrible?” This kind of thinking can help you to name your emotions, which has been shown to reduce negative feelings and attitudes.<span title="Lieberman, M.D., Eisenberger, N.I., Crockett, M.J., Tom, S.M., Pfeifer, J.H., &amp; Way, B.M. (2007) “Putting feelings into words: affect labeling disrupts amygdala activity in response to affective stimuli.” Psychological Science 18:5, 421-8. DOI: 10.1111/j.1467-9280.2007.01916.x" dir="ltr">16Also, avoid asking yourself a problem-centered question. Don’t ask, “What difficulty am I facing right now?” Instead, frame the question around a goal, as in, “What would I like my relationship with my boss to look like a month from now?” Coaches and counselors are learning that solution-focused questions make their clients feel good, whereas problem-focused questions make their clients feel less satisfied.<span title="Grant, Anthony M. &amp; O’Connor, Sean A. (2010) “The differential effects of solution‐focused and problem‐focused coaching questions: a pilot study with implications for practice.” Industrial and Commercial Training 42:2, 102–111, https://doi.org/10.1108/00197851011026090; Grant, Anthony M. (2012) Making Positive Change: A Randomized Study Comparing Solution-Focused vs. Problem-Focused Coaching Questions. Journal of Systemic Therapies 31:2, 21-35. DOI: 10.1521/jsyt.2012.31.2.21; Theeboom, T., Beersma, B., &amp; Van Vianen, A. E. M. (2016). “The differential effects of solution-focused and problem-focused coaching questions on the affect, attentional control, and cognitive flexibility of undergraduate students experiencing study-related stress.” The Journal of Positive Psychology, 5, 460–469. DOI: https://doi.org/10.1080/17439760.2015.1117126 " dir="ltr">17If you have a persistent problem on your mind, ask yourself questions that shift your focus to its possible solution. These could be as straightforward as, “What is one possible solution to this problem?” and then, “What is one way I could start to move toward creating this solution?”18Using solution-focused questions has two benefits:<OL><LI>It reveals potential answers to the problems</LI><LI>It increases your confidence in your ability to solve future dilemmas.</LI></OL>A feeling of agency and control affects your feeling of confidence, improves your self-worth,19 and increases the odds you’ll follow-through on your intentions.<h2>Why is Self Awareness So Hard?</h2>In many ways buying a self-help book or looking for inspiration from a guru can give us the quick feeling that we’re doing something about our problems. However, self awareness requires finding time to answer our problems for ourselves and by ourselves.Although there are numerous benefits to cultivating self awareness, the practice does take time. Thankfully, that time is free and available to us if we plan ahead.Instead of jumping to easy solutions, make time to sit down and think. Schedule at least 15 minutes for reflection into your daily—or at least weekly—routine. Consider making time for reflection your first activity of the day. Put your phone away, wait to turn on your computer, put a “do not disturb” sign on your monitor, and give yourself that quarter of an hour to think.You may have to get creative with how you organize your day so you can find uninterrupted time. Maybe it’s during a short lunchtime walk, your ride on the bus, or the minutes when your kids are napping or doing their homework. For me, writing what’s on my mind before I start my workday is an excellent way to find answers I never knew I had in me.Clearly, the answers to all your problems can’t always be found within you. There is certainly an appropriate time for research. However, making time to think and reflect can help you whittle down the few questions where you need more information rather than ruminating (or even worse, Googling) endlessly.After our coffee, I advised Bill to sit down with his thoughts, alone. I told him to take out a sheet of paper and start writing down what he was feeling. I told him to do so without letting his mind wander into negativity and blame. I told him to first reflect on what he was feeling without judgment so that he could understand what was really going on.After a few weeks, I heard back from Bill. He told me the introspection exercise revealed important truths he hadn’t considered before. He actually loved his job, and he truly enjoyed working with his clients. He also loved doing little things his family could depend on, like always making their breakfast and packing their lunches.However, there were also things he disliked about his job, like having to endure the daily rubbernecking on the interstate highway. But when Bill started to reflect on what he was feeling, he began to realize that he could separate aspects of how he felt about his work. Hating the traffic didn’t mean he wasn’t cut out for the job, it just meant he needed to find a better solution.His insights came when he gave himself permission to reflect, let his mind wander, and come up with creative new solutions.Today, Bill drives to work, where he leaves his car in the company lot. He then orders a ride-hailing service from his phone to take him to his client meetings. While seated comfortably in the back of the car, Bill responds to emails he previously answered late into the night. This frees his evenings to be with his family. Bill even convinced his company to pay for the car service, justifying it by his increased productivity during the day.Had Bill gone fishing for answers to his problem outside himself, he may have never discovered this unique solution. Only by getting into the routine of self reflection and making time in your day to think for yourself can you come up with solutions just waiting to be discovered inside yourself.<div>Nir’s Note: This article was written in collaboration with the NirAndFar.com team.</div>

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