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7 Mindful Ways to Handle Complicated People at Work

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7 Mindful Ways to Handle Complicated People at Work
Complicated work situations are not a rare occurrence. Many of us have had a difficult co-worker to deal with at some point in our careers. From people who don't submit their work in time or don't show up for meetings, to people who just can't work in a team or who are overly competitive.

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Understand the situation

Complaining about a difficult work situation will not make it go away. Try to understand the situation, and find a way to understand and accept your colleagues.

People’s characters are a reflection of their own mental limitations; when people try to hinder us, it is usually a sign their mind is obstructed by their own negativity.

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Learn how to accept criticism

Sometimes it can help us identify weaknesses we didn’t know we had.

Analyze it and take what is helpful from it. If you find it is meaningless bitterness, disregard it immediately.

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Winston Churchill

“You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.”

Winston Churchill

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Avoid negative colleagues

Minimize conversations with them. Only speak when it is necessary for work, or when you have something constructive to share.

A negative person will always find a reason to express negativity. 

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Albert Einstein

"Stay away from negative people. They have a problem, for every solution.”

Albert Einstein

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Keep your cool in heated situations

Don’t let anger overcome you. Nothing constructive results from anger. Anger only obstructs judgement and mental clarity.

If you train yourself to remain calm in stressful situations, you will grow strong and resilient.

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Never accept abuse from anyone

Tolerating hurtful treatment weakens your self-esteem and self-confidence. 

Letting others insult you and not doing anything about it sends your subconscious mind a message that you deserve what is happening to you.

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Speak to a higher authority

... if all else fails.

Sometimes people get very competitive and there is no way to resolve situations without the intervention of a higher authority.

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Anger and Aggression

  • Anger: An emotion felt when we believe we have been wronged.
  • Aggression: is an act of expression of the anger, by our words our actions. Aggressio...

Validation and Boundaries

  • We can try and validate the anger felt by an individual by making them know that their anger is maybe justified while putting firm but respectful boundaries on their aggression.
  • We then need to be clear about what type of aggression we are willing to tolerate, setting boundaries on the unacceptable.
  • We may have to put our foot down and be ready to leave the conversation or escalate the issue, without falling into the trap of guilt and emotion.
  • If possible, we need to restart the conversation when things have cooled down, and diffuse the issue in a calm way.

Avoiding Speculative Self-Talk

Unchecked self-talk can easily turn into self-delusion. The stories we create almost always make you look like the good guy and cannot be termed as objective.

  • The way to get out of this speculative self-delusion is to avoid any speculation about other people's anger, at least initially.
  • Make sure to note down the facts of the situation. This can make the story less according to your gut instinct, and more towards the objective reality.

Don’t try to fix the difficult person

Accept them exactly as they are. 

Accept that they are unable to change, at least at this point in time. Unless you see real change — proof that this person is making an effort&nb...

Be present and direct

Try to avoid getting into a fight-or-flight response, which inevitably leads to becoming defensive

  • Be direct and assertive when you express yourself. 
  • Stay focused on how you respond. 
  • Know when the discussion or argument has accelerated to the point of no return. If it gets to this point, stop the interaction, and leave the conversation.

Encourage difficult people to express themselves

Let them fully state their point of view about the issue/conflict/problem without interruption. What do they feel people misunderstand about them? What do they want or expect from others? 

The idea is to remain as neutral as possible. Just listening may be enough to allow someone to feel like they have the opportunity to say what’s on their mind.