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Online and Off, We Are Drawn Toward Those with Similar Writing Styles
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Like-Minded People
There is a natural tendency in us to become friends with people who share some ethnic, religious, or personality-based background with us, which extends to linguistic styles and creates societies that are similar to each other.
New studies that look at online relationships proved that the linguistic similarity also has a higher likelihood of friendships.
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The Level Of Influence Of Similar Linguistic Skills
When people only see the text of the other person, which is what they usually see in online relationships, the linguistic style is the only thing that can attract them to others.
The level of influence is much greater with people who have similar linguistic skills, affecting the flow of ideas and opinions within the group.
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Disagreements with a huge polarizing effect
It is common to disagree with peers, friends, family members and even strangers. Normally, it is harmless banter and one gets along fine with people with a different taste in pizza or a basketball ...
Anxiety and threat during heated discussions
Divisive topics, especially politics and religion, are by definition loaded with subjectivity and have no worldwide consensus.
This creates an inherent threat in the participant, as the moral, religious, and political values start to lose ground, creating anxiety and extreme reactions, like unfriending or blocking the person having a different point of view.
Different views: right vs wrong
Different moral values make the person view the discussion as a right versus wrong or good versus evil fight, in which it is natural to make an enemy out of the other person, who is now being looked at in a different light.
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Data On Online Dating
- 40% of Americans use online dating as a way to meet new people.
- 23% of Americans still think using online dating sites is desperate.
Data On Online Daters
- 53% of Americans lie in their profiles. Women tend to post younger photos of themselves and claim to be thinner, while men tend to lie about their careers.
- Even on apps known as being for "hook up", most females are looking for a genuine match and not a fling.
- Two-thirds of online daters have gone out with someone they were matched with.
- One-third of people who have used online dating have never actually gone on a date.
Data On Relationships Started Online
- Relationships that begin online are nearly 30% more likely to break down than ones where couples met face-to-face first.
- 20% of committed relationships began online.
- Marriages from online couples are three times as likely to end in divorce.
- 17% of couples that were married in the last year met on a dating website.
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The dark tetrad
Psychologists have found a link between a troll's behavior and a few personality traits:
- Sadism: obtaining pleasure from another’s distress.
- P...
Understanding trolls
After spending years building relationships with trolls and trying to understand them, journalist Ginger Gorman shares her findings in the the book Troll Hunting:
- They are not uneducated persons, that lack social skills and live in their parents' basement.They have partners, children, and full-time jobs.
- They show leadership skills as commanders of large trolling gatherings.
- They are socially intelligent and capable of to identifying users’ weaknesses with precision.
Empathy deficit
The absence of nonverbal feedback leads to an “empathy deficit,” and this is what sociopaths suffer from.
If someone says something negative in person and makes you cry, he/she will possibly feel uncomfortable. Unless they're psychopaths, your misery will generate an empathic response and lead them to have mercy. If someone tweets something negative and makes you cry, no amount of emojis can transmit the image of a crying person. If there is no social cue to evoke an empathic response, they might continue their negative assault.