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5 Truths You Must Accept Before You Can Grow
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Aspirations Vs Reality
One of the most difficult yet useful skills is the ability to balance your aspirations with reality. A pessimist and an idealist both miss the point.
The point is to have optimism about your future but look at the state of society, your environment, and your circumstances without rose-colored glasses.
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Life Will Constantly Test You
Realizing the world will constantly test you removes the element of surprise. When you find yourself in a bad spot, it feels doubly worse because you didn’t see it coming.
When life tests you, you get the chance to prove you’re resilient. One of the deepest levels of satisfaction comes from knowing how strong you are.
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The Way Things "Should" Be
Things will never be the way they "should" be. A perfect world doesn’t exist.
Instead of talking about what you should do and the way the world should be, you’re better off doing. Doers make change happen for themselves and for others.
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No One is Coming to Save You
It’s easy to blame the government, your employer, or someone other than yourself for your problems. But no one will come to save you.
You’ll have to lift yourself out of your circumstances. It won't be easy. But if you want to change your life, you really don’t have a choice.
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You’re In Control Of Your Life
Deep down we know we're responsible for our situations, but accepting that it's hard. Because it means we’re the ones that have to change and take responsibility.
Denial feels bad, but it hurts a little less than accepting the truth of your role in your own life.
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The "Perfect" Time Start
You'll never find it. There’s power in just starting.
You don’t have to make a big deal out of starting a new project, just do it.
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Feeling stuck
It’s a mixture of feeling paralyzed, depressed, overwhelmed, hopeless, being in doubt about the future and many other similar negative feelings.
You usually get stuck after making a se...
People feel stuck in their:
- Own body: illness, being overweight
- Mind: bad thinking patterns
- Key relationships: boss, coworkers, spouse, family, social groups
- In a job or career
- In money-related things, or even in negative market trends
- In constant unhappiness
- In a lack of creativity or intellectual stimulation or a lack of hope or having no direction in life and similar.
You are not really stuck
You can’t be really stuck, because everything is moving and going forward, and so are you. You are only spending your time, energy and other resources wrong.
And it’s more than obvious that doing the same things and expecting a different result is crazy.
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Failing to ask for clarification
Not asking for clarification because of fear of looking incompetent in front of authority.
FIX: If you don't understand what success looks like, ask for clarification, specifics or...
Not framing your remarks
In general, the higher up the audience, the less detail you should be providing. Frequently, executives get tuned out when they report to higher levels and provide too much detail about their topic.
FIX: Cater your comments to the highest level person in the room, and address what he or she will find valuable. Put the details in an appendix or have them ready so they're available, and you can easily pull them out if asked.
Littering your speech with qualifiers
Using qualifiers such as "I think" or "we might" or "I hope to" before your points. It lacks confidence.
FIX: Start paying attention to how you use language, and if you're hiding behind qualifiers. Tape yourself or ask a colleague to take note of when you use them, and find a comfortable phrase to replace them such as "I plan to" or "I will."
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Commitment to Personal Goals
Generally, people don't train in themselves the habits, self-knowledge and control structures to ensure they act on their plans and goals.
You can be better at committing to things...
Improve Your Ability to Stick to Things
- Start with projects that should be easy to commit to. Don’t start with projects of 3-6 months if you don’t have a strong track-record of one-month successes behind you.
- Start becoming more sensitive about what you commit to. Be cautious about overcommitting.
- If you need future flexibility, bake it into your initial commitment, don’t try to wiggle it in later.
- Raise the bar on what counts as a valid excuse. View commitment as a long-term skill-building project.