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The only solution on the table if you are feeling stuck
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Feeling stuck
It’s a mixture of feeling paralyzed, depressed, overwhelmed, hopeless, being in doubt about the future and many other similar negative feelings.
You usually get stuck after making a series of bad decisions. You may feel like you are stuck in a relationship, in a job or in life in general.
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People feel stuck in their:
- Own body: illness, being overweight
- Mind: bad thinking patterns
- Key relationships: boss, coworkers, spouse, family, social groups
- In a job or career
- In money-related things, or even in negative market trends
- In constant unhappiness
- In a lack of creativity or intellectual stimulation or a lack of hope or having no direction in life and similar.
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You are not really stuck
You can’t be really stuck, because everything is moving and going forward, and so are you. You are only spending your time, energy and other resources wrong.
And it’s more than obvious that doing the same things and expecting a different result is crazy.
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Recognize the 'benefits'
There are certain benefits to being stuck you are enjoying. They can be enjoying the comfort zone, emotional security, financial security, being used to people and things, and so on.
The pain of being stuck is usually smaller than the pain of freeing yourself and doing something about it.
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Don't wait too long
Kill the monster when it’s still small.
Most people wait until the pain of being stuck becomes much bigger than doing something, just anything. And by then it’s usually far too late to constructively solve a problem without severe damage.
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The first steps
When somebody feels stuck, the moment they start doing a small new task they haven’t been doing before to change their situation, a big burden lifts off their shoulders.
The first step is the hardest but when you do it, a whole new world opens up to you.
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“The hard choices—what we most fear doing, asking, saying—these are very often exactly what we most need to do.”
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What's Holding You Down
Some people allow fears to keep them stuck in their situations. Fear has the ability to keep you stuck and control your mindset.
You can silence it by stating this fear out loud and becoming familiar with the worst-case scenario.
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Defensiveness and toxic shame
Toxic shame is an emotion that most of us get to know throughout our lifetime: deep inside, we feel that we have failed ourselves or the others.
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Obsessed with perfection
Anybody who is obsessed with the idea of being perfect will most probably end up having a major frustration. To put it simply, making mistakes is just natural for us, humans.
On the other, even though feeling ashamed for what you have done is quite upsetting, not taking responsibility or pretending to be someone you are not is way worse.
Shame and apologies
When making a mistake, some individuals find it extremely difficult to admit and apologize. This often leads to misunderstandings and even more tense relationships.
On the contrary, self-confident people will freely admit whenever they have made a mistake or have been wrong about something, as self development is possible only by acknowledging our own weaknesses.
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Stress and motivation
Used effectively, stress can motivate us to accomplish more than we had imagined possible. Stress can jolt us to reach our potential. Without stress, we’d feel rudderless and without purpose.
Not all stress is bad for you
- “Good stress”: which psychologists refer to as “eustress,” is the stress we feel when we’re excited about something.
- Acute stress: when something surprises us or catches us off guard. Acute stress is the body’s response to ensure you react and take measures to deal with the unexpected situation. It has no lasting negative effects if we deal with it quickly and move on.
Build your resilience
Resilience is how we deal with stress effectively so we “bounce back” after a difficult time.
As we deal with issues that cause tension and strain, we learn to face adversity, deal with significant issues and overcome problems. We learn how to formulate realistic plans and carry them out.