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Making Excuses Zaps Your Motivation. So Don't Do It.

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Making Excuses Zaps Your Motivation. So Don't Do It.
The gist: When you make excuses for your hardships, it zaps your motivation and power to recover. To succeed in the long-term, take responsibility for failure even when its not your fault. 11-year-old James had a big, impractical idea. He was going to graduate from high school.

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Excuses Breed More Failure

When you are disappointed, you have two choices on how to respond:  You can find out how you could have done it differently, or you can tell yourself that you were not at fault.

Shifting the blame has a negative cascading effect on how you behave in the future.

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Personal Responsibility Breeds Success

Making excuses allows you to externalize your failures and blame something else. It also demotivates you when you feel the outcomes in your life are out of your control.

Taking up responsibility does the opposite: It leads to introspection where you can analyze what you could have done differently. It will motivate you to work better and harder.

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How To Stop Making Excuses

It all comes down to the stories you tell yourself when you feel overwhelmed or fail.

If you work too much and don’t have time for fun, do you tell yourself that people demand too much from you? Or, do you tell yourself you don’t prioritize your own time well enough?

In one story you are in control, and the other you are not. Focus on the story you can control.

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Defining excuses

Excuses are rationalizations we make to ourselves about people, events, and circumstances. 

They are invented reasons we create to defend our behavior, to postpone taking action or simpl...

The Fear Trap

We make excuses for the following key reasons:

  • Fear of Failure
  • Fear of Embarrassment
  • Fear of Success
  • Fear of Change
  • Fear of Uncertainty
  • Fear of Responsibility
  • Fear of Making Mistakes
  • Perceived lack of confidence or resources
To successfully eliminate excuses we must first consider removing all traces of fear. Fear paralyzes us and prevents forward movement in all areas of our lives.

'There’s just not enough time'

This excuse means a lack of desire, focus, discipline, and direction.
It suggests the wrong priorities or time management problems. It could also indicate laziness or procrastination.

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Own it

Take responsibility for whatever you did and understand the possible impact. 

Give yourself room to be wrong, and don't defend yourself in hindsight. Defensiveness is your number ...

Be proactive about solutions

Pinpoint how did the mistake happen and where things went wrong. Then ask yourself what you can do to fix the problem.

Assess if you need help or you can fix it on your own. Don't try to sweep it under the rug--that could backfire.

Communicate with those affected

Communicate the mistake to those affected or to those who can help, in ways that appeal to people's humanity.

Be sincere. Show that you care to fix it.  Be honest about your struggles.

Excuse-making

It's a defense mechanism you use in the battle between your positive self-identity and the common challenges of everyday life.

This habit comes down to an inherent need to protect your...

The self-serving bias

It encourages you to claim your successes and to deflect your failures.

When something good happens, you take the credit, but when something bad happens, you blame it on something out of your control.

Common types of excuses

  • Lies: This is one of the worst types of excuses—a straight-up lie.
  • Self-handicapping excuses: Such as “I don’t have the skills to do that”, or “That’s not my job.”
  • Blame-shifting excuses: Instead of putting the blame on your lack of abilities, you accuse external factors for your missteps or lack of performance.