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4 Steps to Clearing Your Emotions

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4 Steps to Clearing Your Emotions
Have your closets ever gotten so full you couldn't find anything? Is your closet like mine, filled with clothes you've forgotten about, clothes you can't bear to part with, knowing you'll never wear them again, or clothes that were very expensive mistakes? Is your closet filled with things that remind you of past lovers, friends and places?

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Step 4: Bring In The New

Focus on getting rid of the unnecessary and harmful, so you can make way for the new beliefs and ideas about yourself, not based on the past, but on the future you are creating.

If you want results you must do this continuously, so you don’t accumulate so much unconsciously. 

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Step 3: Feel That Old Pain

We tend to avoid thinking of painful things. But if you stay with the feeling, the feeling eventually dissipates.

Allow yourself to feel what's associated with past experiences to make the pain and the behaviors it causes go away, leaving only the memories.

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Step 2: Identify The Feeling’s Source

The emotion you are feeling today is rooted in the past, in a story that repeats itself because the original feeling has never been dealt with.

The person you think is causing all this pain is just the catalyst for you to uncover your emotional triggers, so you can move past them in a balanced way. Adopting this mindset allows you to go from victim/perpetrator to empowered self-knowing creator.

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Step 1: Look For Emotional Patterns

We often let our emotions run through unexamined, but that robs us of valuable insight. Focus on the feeling and the context they appear so you can work towards getting rid of unhelpful patterns.

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Assess Everything

Pull everything out of your closet and separate it into three piles: keep, donate, or throw away. And in terms of "keep" make a physical list of what you have before hanging them back up.

Figure Out What You Really Wear

... on a regular basis. To make this process easier, do the following:
  • Turn each the hangers in your closet so the hooks are pointing towards you (wrong way round).
  • When you wear something, put it back with the hook the normal way.
  • Donate anything in a hanger still facing the wrong way after six months.

Ask Yourself If It Fits

Simply asking yourself if the item in question fits right now will help you find out what to get. If the answer is no, toss it.

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The Positive Lexicography Project

The Positive Lexicography Project

It aims to offer a more nuanced understanding of ourselves, by capturing many ways of expressing good feelings from across the world.
It is directed by Tim Lomas at the University of East London...

Highly specific positive feelings

... that depend on particular circumstances:

  • Desbundar (Portuguese): to shed one’s inhibitions in having fun
  • Tarab (Arabic): a musically induced state of ecstasy or enchantment
  • Shinrin-yoku (Japanese): the relaxation gained from bathing in the forest, figuratively or literally
  • Gigil (Tagalog): the irresistible urge to pinch or squeeze someone because they are loved or cherished
  • Yuan bei (Chinese): a sense of complete and perfect accomplishment
  • Iktsuarpok (Inuit): the anticipation one feels when waiting for someone, whereby one keeps going outside to check if they have arrived.

Complex and bittersweet experiences

  • Natsukashii (Japanese): a nostalgic longing for the past, with happiness for the fond memory, yet sadness that it is no longer
  • Wabi-sabi (Japanese): a “dark, desolate sublimity” centered on transience and imperfection in beauty
  • Saudade (Portuguese): a melancholic longing or nostalgia for a person, place or thing that is far away either spatially or in time – a vague, dreaming wistfulness for phenomena that may not even exist
  • Sehnsucht (German): “life-longings”, an intense desire for alternative states and realisations of life, even if they are unattainable.

Hans Hofmann

“The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.”

Hans Hofmann

Remove decorations

... that no longer inspire you. Just because something made you happy in the past doesn’t mean you have to keep it forever.

Your life has moved on—maybe it’s time for the decoration to do the same. Keeping just the items that mean the most to you will help them to shine.

Reject the convenience fallacy

There are certain places in our homes we tend to leave items out for convenience. By leaving these things out, we think we’re saving time and simplifying our lives. That’s the convenience fallacy. 

W might save a couple of seconds, but the other 99.9 percent of the time, those items just sit there creating a visual distraction.