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The Psychology Behind Soulmates, And Whether Or Not They Actually Exist
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Believing in the soulmate concept
If you are in love with the person, believing that you are soulmates can strengthen the relationship.
However, if you are to end a relationship with someone who you thought was your soulmate, can make the recovery almost impossible.
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The existence of soulmates
Soulmates are only an artificial construct in our minds as a result of the movies we see and the songs we listen to.
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If you have experienced love at first sight, think what made the stranger stand out to you.
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Knowing this, you may understand why some are certain about the possibility of love at first sight.
But it doesn't make the potential resulting breakup easier. It leaves us feeling like we lost something destiny had intended.
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Destiny beliefs vs. growth beliefs
- Destiny Beliefs: I am destined to be with a specific person. I have a soulmate.
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Patterns
Have you been overcome by a break-up? Do you run the moment you have trouble in your relationship?
Examine your relationship patterns and connect them to your idea about soulmates. If you are a destiny believer, see if it serves you. If you are a growth believer, examine if you can learn from it.
Changeable or Unchangeable
There is a distinction between a fundamental value difference in a relationship and an annoyance.
Think about your deal breakers. Were they fixable? Compromise-able? Changeable?
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Social media stalking your ex
When we are stalking our exes on social media, we will find something we don’t want to see. But the subsequent feel of your heart dropping and the jealousy aren’t conducive to getting over your heartbreak.
Burn all cyber-bridges - limiting your access to your ex will automatically make you feel better.
When everything makes you cry
The emotional pain of a breakup often results in your body pumping itself full of cortisol, which suppresses the immune system and affects coping mechanisms.
The first step in fixing the problem is understanding that it is normal, according. So if the littlest things are making you cry, take a moment to recognize that it is most likely caused by your body's response to the breakup.