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If you want to be more confident, start admitting to the gaps in your knowledge
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Confidence comes from within
Much of the confidence we crave is based on how we want others to see us.
Confidence comes from within. It’s not just about owning the stage and giving a knockout performance but putting the time in to learn the lines, finessing the routine.
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True confidence
True confidence in yourself doesn’t come only from the knowledge you already possess, but a willingness to learn more.
There’s no shame in admitting you don't know something; you’re showing just how confident you can be. Ask questions, be curious about the world around you.
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The confident man is calm
A truly confident man won’t get aggressive or arrogant, because those traits suggest someone is losing control. He knows keeping cool and talking in a calm, measured way is the quickest way to get respect.
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Admit when you’re wrong
Failure is as important a part of success as winning - you have to know it, own it and learn from it.
A truly confident man will see failure as just one of many outcomes.
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Groom yourself
Making yourself more pleasing to your own eyes can make you feel more confident.
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Confidence and self-perception
Confidence=becoming comfortable with what you are not
The solution to the confidence conundrum is not to feel as though you lack nothing and delude yourself into believing you already possess everything you could ever dream. The solution is to simply become comfortable with what you potentially lack. - Mark Manson
Confidence comes through failure
Those among us who are the most comfortable with negative experiences are those who reap the most benefits. Comfort in our failures allows us to act without fear, to engage without judgment, to love without conditions
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Common errors when reading people
- Ignoring context: Crossed arms don’t mean much if the room is cold or the chair they’re sitting in doesn’t have armrests.
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Trusting your instincts
Your first impressions are usually pretty accurate. But whether they are wrong or right, first impressions affect us in a big way and we are slow to change them.
You have to be willing to update them quite rapidly.
Reading first impressions
- Studies show that if someone seems extroverted, confident, religious or conscientious, they probably are.
- We all pay more attention to pretty people, and so we tend to take the time to evaluate them.
- If you want to know if someone is good at their job, watch them do it for 30-60 seconds.
- Funny people are smart: Effective humor production acts as an honest indicator of intelligence in humans.