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Dating apps are everywhere. Relationship apps are for what comes next.

https://www.vox.com/the-goods/2019/9/11/20853452/couple-app-relationship-lasting

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Dating apps are everywhere. Relationship apps are for what comes next.
This story is part of a group of stories called When Verge editor (and Vox Media coworker) Chris Welch tweeted a screenshot of a relationship app that reminded users to "send a text message that makes your partner smile at 12pm" or "ask about my partner's day at 6pm," it quickly went viral.

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Relationship app

Relationship app

A relationship app helps people to communicate.

  •  It can remind people to regularly connect during the day.
  • It can be helpful to spark meaningful conversations for people who have trouble expressing themselves in relationships.

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How relationship apps work

A relationship app does little things like sending you reminders to text your partner an expression of gratitude at a certain time of day. It can also guide you through how to start a conversation about, for instance,  infidelity.

A relationship app is like a third, neutral party: It shows where a couple's needs and priorities differ. One app combines audio tracks and articles about psychology and marriage health, then translates them into exercises.

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The shift in optimizing personal lives

The shift in optimizing personal lives

People have started to approach their personal lives like a business. 

Marriage spreadsheets can collect and analyze data on everything that might affect the quality of life - for instance, household chores, alone time or hours slept. 

Applications can act as a manager for children's time, or organize to-do lists and goals.

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Concerns of relationship apps

  • Relationship Apps can collect sensitive information when personal issues are catalogued in the cloud.
  • Should we allocate even more time on phones, when spending too much time online already reveals a negative impact on relationships?
  • Apps that are meant to interfere in our relationship building is still new. We cannot yet realize what the consequences will be.
  • An app can only do so much to unearth issues, but cannot force people to change their behaviour.

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