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The 3 Keys to Becoming Irresistible

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The 3 Keys to Becoming Irresistible
There’s a routine question asked in job interviews, first dates, table games and so on: What is the most important thing you look for in other people? There’s variations on this format (i.e. “What’s…

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Humility

Humility

The root of all growth, learning, and kindness, humility is the absence of entitlement. 
Humility annihilates ignorance and cultivates grace at the same time.  

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Curiosity

Curiosity

The main driver for our quest for knowledge, novelty, experience, and connection, curiosity is a solid foundation for a life filled with stories, memories, and accomplishments.

Thorugh the eyes of curios person, the world is too large and our time on it too short to ever remain fully satisfied in any of our pursuits.

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Empathy

Empathy

Empathy breeds compassion, connection, and love. It brings people closer and makes others feel understood and less alone.

Empathetic people genuinely care, but they also respect and understand the boundaries and privacy of the people that surround them.

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When stacked together...

... humility is the soul. Curiosity is the mind. Empathy is the heart.

Humility is how you value yourself. Curiosity is how you value your others. Empathy is how you value the bonds between yourself and others.

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The 3 keys for unlocking your best self

The 3 keys for unlocking your best self

There are three elements that, when mixed together, have the potential to create a spellbinding supernova of a person, that is able to take over their life and lead others at the same time: Humility, Curiosity, and Empathy.

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Traits inclusive-leaders share

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  • They are modest about capabilities, admit mistakes, and create the space for others to contribute.
  • They show awareness of personal blind spots, as well as flaws in the system.
  • They demonstrate an open mindset and deep curiosity about others.
  • They are attentive to others’ cultures and adapt as required.
  • They empower others and focus on team cohesion.

The most important trait

If a leader wants to know what is the most important trait, commitment is the most critical.
For those working around a leader, the single most important trait is a leader's visible awareness of bias - a leader that constantly challenges their own bias and encourage others to note their pre-conceived leanings. Raters also care about humility and empathy.

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Curiosity leads us to generate alternatives

Curiosity leads us to generate alternatives

When our curiosity is triggered, we are less likely to fall prey to confirmation bias (looking for information that supports our beliefs rather than for evidence suggesting we are ...

Curiosity and innovation

Encouraging people to be curious generates workplace improvements.

When we are curious, we view tough situations more creatively. Studies have found that curiosity is associated with less defensive reactions to stress and less aggressive reactions to provocation.

Reduced group conflict

Curiosity encourages members of a group to put themselves in one another’s shoes and take an interest in one another’s ideas rather than focus only on their own perspective.

Thus, conflicts are less heated, and groups achieve better results.

Empathy

Empathy

Empathy means seeing things through someone else's eyes. It is an essential component that keeps relationships running smoothly. It allows us to create bonds of trust, gives insights into anoth...

Empathy in the business world

There are many studies that link empathy to business results. Empathy is correlated with increased sales, performance of the best managers of product development teams, and with enhanced performance in a diverse workforce.

It is predicted that those with a strong right-brain (interpersonal) qualities will have the upperhand in the Conceptual Age.

Reasons why empathy is important

Dr. Daniel Goleman gives three reasons why empathy is so important:

  • The increased use of teams (that could spark different emotions.)
  • The rapid pace of globalization (with cross-cultural communication that could lead to misunderstanding)
  • The growing need to retain talent.

Leaders with empathy do more than sympathize with people - they use their knowledge to improve their companies in skillful and subtle ways.