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How Can I Open Myself Up to New Romantic Relationships?

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/02/06/t-magazine/romantic-relationships.html

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How Can I Open Myself Up to New Romantic Relationships?
"You should not be able to walk away unscathed, which is to say, unchanged," writes one of our advice columnists. Credit... In T's advice column Q: Can you help with art suggestions for my severe fear of engulfment when it comes to being involved with someone romantically?

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Absorb and Imbibe

The key to opening oneself to new romantic relationships is to be completely open towards the experience. The more we are careful, cautious and afraid of things that can change us, the more we miss.

Whether it is a romantic partner, a poem, a movie, a song, or a work of art, try to be a hopeless romantic, absorbing, imbibing everything. Get lost and dissolved, and don't come back unchanged.

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