Face that obstacle right now. Think about the things you were always afraid of. You need to fix, change or face!
If you go down the road and someone cuts you off, wave to him; if you order chicken and they bring you steak, eat it and say 'thank you'. Why? Because the little problems don't matter anymore. Get bigger problems and solve them. Instead of solving hundred-dollar problems, solve million-dollar problems.
Always remember: they're the same amount of stress, so why not add more zeros?!
If the outcome you imagine is bad, so will become the reality!
Instead of telling yourself: "If I leave my kids (due to a divorce), I'm going to do them what my parents did to me and screw up their life. I'll never be the same", say: "The fact is I can not undo time, so I'm going to build a next level relationship with my kids and my ex" and reality will align (the author went from a life of really bad anxiety to being best friends with his ex and having the best relationship with their kids).
Screw the what-ifs.
For example, replace, in your relationship with your ex, worrying about your ego and what's fair and keeping score with love (for example, say 'ok, that's what you think and that's just fine').
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