Everyone experiences loneliness at some time in their life. It could come after a divorce or a break up, or after moving to a new area, or when we have spent too much time on our own, whether that’s due to age, illness, or, as with the COVID-19 pandemic, social restrictions.
When we feel lonely, a common tendency is to escape the feeling and look for an external distraction. It could be something as simple as taking out your phone in a public place to appear busy. Or maybe you cancel social plans because you’re exhausted, only to stay home and mindlessly scroll online for hours.
Find a greater sense of ease with the situation and circumstance you’re in by learning to look inward and investigate feelings of loneliness.Try to listen to podcasts or talks that you find relaxing and Soothing.
There are so many reasons by which we feel lonely. Only real common denominator is the feeling itself.
“ In some ways, the antidote to loneliness is to be more present ” says Andy. “Not caught up in the story of loneliness, but rather resting in the present moment.”
Meditation can help lessen the impact of loneliness, and the more we practice, the more we allow ourselves to feel the benefits.
When you are feeling overwhelmed by loneliness, it can always be helpful to stop, take a minute, and take a few deep breaths.
Those breaths can calm you like nothing else.
Many of us don’t know how to spend our alone time in a positive and meaningful way. As you practice sitting with yourself, you’ll gradually begin to free the mind, learn self-Compassion, better understand what it means to be independent, and keep the bleaker thoughts around loneliness at bay.