The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - Deepstash
The first step to not giving a fuck.
  • Understanding the whole damn concept: Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent. Rather, it is the art of wisely choosing the fucks that we do decide to give.
  • Hence, the sad truth: You see, you are going to die soon. And probably everyone you know and love will, too. And in the short time between now and then, YOU HAVE A VERY LIMITED AMOUNT OF FUCKS TO GIVE. Hence, it is important that you make selective choices of the things you devote your time and attention to (or give a fuck about) before then, or you're likely going to get, um? FUCKED.



Step 2: Happiness is a problem.

Many of us have the belief that our happiness will come when we achieve certain things. We think: when I have that car A or get married to that girl B or graduate from college with that GPA of C, then I'll be truly happy.

The truth is there is no real value that comes from acquiring all these things apart from the ones that we give them.

If eventually, you do acquire, A, B, or C. There will be new problems that stem from those things that you have acquired, only that you may have problems that will be better than what existed before.



You are not special.

Truth is, there is no such thing as a personal problem if you have a problem, chances are there are millions of people who are having the same problem, have had it, or will have it in the future.

This does not minimize the problem or mean that you are not legitimately a victim of that problem. It simply means that you are not special.

Often, it's the realization that you and your problems are not actually unique in their severity or pain that is the first and foremost step of solving it. 



The value of suffering.

Suffering is inevitable in life. But sometimes, as much as we dread the idea of suffering, suffering is not always associated with something negative, and in fact, it can be enjoyable, that's if it's in our control and directed toward some greater purpose.

Now that we know that suffering is inevitable and our problems are unavoidable, then the question we should be asking is not "How do I stop suffering?" but "Why am I suffering, for what purpose?" Once we determine this and change our mindset toward it. Suffering takes on a new dimension and becomes more endurable.



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