Eric Badan's Key Ideas from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
by Mark Manson

For many people solving problems doesn't feel that simple. They f*** up things up in at least one of two ways:

1. Denial - denying reality or constanlty distracting themselves from reality
2. Victim Mentality - believing that they can do nothing to solve their problems; blaming others for their problems or blaming the outside circumstances

• This people deny and blame others for their problems, because it's easy and feels good - while solving problems is hard and often feels bad

• They are a way to temporarily escape our problems - makes you feel better
• Highs have many forms: alcohol, moral righteousness, blaming others
• Highs are superficial and unproductive
• You can get addicted by being constantly high - you rely on them to feel better about your underlying problems; the more you will seek them out
• But the longer you avoid your problems, the more painful it will be when you do confront your problems