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How to Deal With Bad Coworkers | The Art of Manliness
Conflict with bad coworkers
Having a bad coworker can really hamper your mood over the long haul, as well as your job performance.
How you deal with that conflict could very well be the difference between having a good job and having a bad job.
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Accept and Acknowledge Personality Differences
Small tics will be magnified and personality differences lead to varying work styles, which can easily turn into conflict.
Conflict can even arise from something as simple as you desiring a quiet lunch period, while your coworkers like to socialize. These types of things are simply differences in how you work or socialize, and don’t necessarily make your coworkers bad.
Know the Pros and Cons of the Work Culture
Some work cultures are notoriously demanding and competitive, which can obviously lead to a lot of conflict.
In a sales environment where folks are competing for commissions and bonuses, it’s understandable that not everyone would be over-the-top friendly with each other. You should consider whether you might be misinterpreting behavior or overreacting to it.
Be kind
Most conflict arises because people's egos are threatened. Our work is directly connected to our livelihood; if it’s threatened, we’re likely to lash out.
Try to be kind. Your kindness may very well help them realize and be a little ashamed of their own poor behavior, and the situation may not have to escalate to a point of even needing to confront it.
Try Avoidance Tactics
- Move desks/cubicles. If you’ve got a cubicle neighbor who’s annoying you, move desks.
- Rearrange your schedule. Maybe you can shift your entire workday by an hour or two.
- Ask about working remotely, from home a couple days per week, or even simply in a nearby coffee shop.
- Change teams. This tactic is a little more extreme, as it could functionally mean changing your job
Resolve the Conflict at the Source
Especially if your conflict with a coworker is personal in nature rather than related to the work itself, you may need to approach them directly with whatever your issue is.
In most cases, people aren’t malicious, and they’ll respect your direct approach.
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The lazy coworker
If you’re working with someone who isn’t pulling their weight, the key to solving this issue is to not give them too many chances.
Explain to your coworker that the project is important to you, and you want to make sure you both see things the same way. Also, talk about your needs instead of their faults.
Awkward conversations
At a party or conference where small talk with someone nearby becomes awkward:
- excuse yourself to get a drink/coffee.
- say “It’s nice talking to you, but I have to talk to someone before they leave.”
- if your conversation is on the phone, end it by saying, “I’d love to catch up, but I have somewhere to be.”
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Treat Everyone with Respect
When you're building a team or company, you simply can't afford to lose great people. Treat them with respect and you're one step closer to keeping them on your team long-term.
Encourage Dissent
To do great things, you and your people need to consistently think outside the box. You need people who feel very comfortable disagreeing with you, trying new things, tossing out new ideas, and being okay with the fact that several of their ideas may turn out to be outright awful.
Make the Final Decision and Move On
If you are the manager, make final decisions. And to do so decisively: evaluate all the options in front of you, hear and absorb everyone's arguments, and ultimately make the final call, with arguments.
Even if you've expressed dissent as an employee, it'll benefit you to let your manager make their call and then focus on what's next, rather than staying preoccupied with past decisions.
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