The popularity of narcissistswhat's turning so many people into narcissists?From people showing importance of their lives on Facebook to kids preoccupied with their own selves.Are we surrounded by narcissists?The topic of narcissism has penetrated the social consciousness enough that most people associate it with a pattern of behaviours that include pervasive need for admiration and a lack of empathy.What almost no one understands is its cause which is shame.

Scarcity Culture - The problem of never-enough

Looking at narcissists through the lens of vulnerability - it can be seen that shame-based fear of being ordinary is the root cause.<ul><li>Fear of never feeling extraordinary enough to be noticed.</li><li>To be lovable</li><li>To belong</li><li>Or to cultivate a sense of purpose.</li></ul> What everyone is calling a narcissism epidemic is actually a culture of scarcity and fear of being ordinary is a part of it where celebrity culture yardstick can be easily used to measure the smallness of our lives.

'Shame' is the real cause

Spending our lives waiting until we're perfect to go through a situation or jump into a venture means sacrificing our relationships and opportunities that may come to our way by our own will. By doing so,we turn our backs on our gifts, those unique contributions that only we can make. perfect or bulletproof is illusionary and doesn't exist in the human experience. 'To dare greatly' or to make vulnerability a way of our life, we must make a decision to show up and let ourselves be seen - with courage &amp; the willingness to engage. It may be scary but it'll change the way we live our life.

Vulnerability- As a way of life

**Now on Netflix as The Call to Courage** 'She's so good, Brené Brown, at finding the language to articulate collective feeling' Dolly Alderton Every time we are faced with change, no matter how great or small, we also face risk. We feel uncertain and exposed. We feel vulnerable. Most of us try to fight those feelings - or feel guilt for feeling them in the first place. In a powerful new vision Dr Brené Brown challenges everything we think we know about vulnerability, and dispels the widely accepted myth that it's a weakness. She argues that, in truth, vulnerability is strength and when we shut ourselves off from vulnerability - from revealing our true selves - we distance ourselves from the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives. Daring Greatly is the culmination of 12 years of groundbreaking social research, across every area of our lives including home, relationships, work, and parenting. It is an invitation to be courageous; to show up and let ourselves be seen, even when there are no guarantees. This is vulnerability. This is daring greatly.

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**Now on Netflix as The Call to Courage** 'She's so good, Brené Brown, at finding the language to articulate collective feeling' Dolly Alderton Every time we are faced with change, no matter how great or small, we also face risk. We feel uncertain and exposed. We feel vulnerable. Most of us try to fight those feelings - or feel guilt for feeling them in the first place. In a powerful new vision Dr Brené Brown challenges everything we think we know about vulnerability, and dispels the widely accepted myth that it's a weakness. She argues that, in truth, vulnerability is strength and when we shut ourselves off from vulnerability - from revealing our true selves - we distance ourselves from the experiences that bring purpose and meaning to our lives. Daring Greatly is the culmination of 12 years of groundbreaking social research, across every area of our lives including home, relationships, work, and parenting. It is an invitation to be courageous; to show up and let ourselves be seen, even when there are no guarantees. This is vulnerability. This is daring greatly.

Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Foundation – Brené Brown Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work. Brené is also a visiting professor in management at The University of Texas at Austin McCombs School of Business. She has spent the past two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy and is the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers: The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, Rising Strong, Braving the Wilderness, and her latest book, Dare to Lead.Brené hosts the Unlocking Us Podcast and the Dare to Lead Podcast. Her TED talk – The Power of Vulnerability – is one of the top five most viewed TED talks in the world with over 50 million views.

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