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Showing your palms

Showing your palms reveals that you have nothing to hide.

This will also make you feel more confident, by overriding our natural tendency to shrink and close off when nervous.

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Adjusting your body language

When you're nervous, your body tends to tighten up, leading to short stiff movements or fidgeting. By contrast, bigger hand movements while speaking convey confidence (they make you look and even feel more confident.)

An easy way to start exercising hand movements is using the voice rule: simply move your hand in rhythm with your voice.

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Echoing a question gives you time to catch up when you are feeling nervous. It's also an easy form of mirroring, which helps you connect with the other person. Because when you repeat someone's words back to them, it can help build feelings of likeability, trust and rapport.

When your mind goes blank during conversations, all your normal wit and charm disappear. The echo technique really helps to buy yourself a few seconds of time to think (in a way that seems unforced).

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Reframe success and failure. 

Reframe success as doing anything that improves you. So even when you are rejected, as long as you reflect on what went wrong and how you can do better when you're in that situation again, that's a win.

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  1. Take the situation you want to stop feeling nervous in
  2. Find a low stakes way to mimic it
  3. Get some repetitions in.

Social courage is a muscle that is transferable. So if you push your comfort zone even in one area, it will bleed out in all the others.

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Learning to laugh at yourself

This is the first step of overcoming your fear of being judged by others. Being able to laugh at yourself is a great marker of confidence. And it makes you more fun to be around.

You can start practicing laughing at yourself by sharing embarrassing stories from your distant past. You still get to practice, but without highlighting any flaws you may have in the present.

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  • If you are in a situation where you can't stop thinking about how nervous you are that you cannot perform or connect, it can be better to share how you are feeling with a smile, rather than try to hide it.
  • This can even make you more likable and make other people more comfortable with their own nervousness.
  • Revealing your insecurities with a smile can also help you overcome your fear of being judged because it emphasizes the idea that you are not ashamed of who you are.

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  1. Adjust your body language.
  2. Learn to handle friendly teasing.
  3. Tell your own embarrassing stories.
  4. Let go of managing people's opinions of you.

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... without making enemies:
  • Make sure you communicate you are not there to fight (using your tone of voice, for example).
  • Avoid making statements; instead, ask questions.
  • Defend yourself with confidence, but without coming across as antagonistic.

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Success on social media

You may have grown a reasonably big Instagram following for your business. You've engaged your followers and were diligent about community management, but you haven't been able to figure out how to turn your followers into paying customers.

A recent survey done by Facebook showed that 81% of respondents reported using the app to research products and services. Another survey showed that 50% of Instagram users have visited a website to buy a product or service because they saw it in Stories.

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